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Old 01-22-2013, 08:25 PM
 
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Originally Posted by Badger55 View Post
First, the date:

On Saturday I had dinner/drinks with a cute 30 year old on POF. (I am 24). She was a little quiet at first, but after a beer and some appetizers, she was very talkative, interesting, and pretty funny too. She has a career and everything. No kids.

She is super indie and has a lot of tattoos. Listens to hipster music and chit. Before we met, we were talking to get to know each other and I told her to watch Parks and Rec, and she loves it now, so +1 for me there.

I walked her to her car, gave her a hug. Went in for the kiss, and she laughed and blushed. Kinda turned away so I went for the cheek. After a quick peck on her cheek, she pulled me in again for another hug.

I had a nice evening. Bill came to 15, I paid 5. She insisted she pay more.

We planned that night to meet again on Friday (this coming Fri):

Now:
We've been texting back and forth since the date, just things about how our day has been and stuff. She's been very receptive.

All of a sudden today, we are texting, and:

she says, "I'm not very good at this."
And I say, "what?"
"Dating, and communicating. I get really stressed out."
"Well, I've only met you once, but I think you're good at dating. I had a lot of fun."
"Right, but it SHOULDN'T make me stressed out, you know what I mean?"
"Yes, I know. Maybe we can talk through it?"
"I just don't know if Im ready to date in my life right now"


What do I make of this? Am I the one stressing her out? I try not to text her to often, only like once a day since our date.
Dinner and drinks came to $15? Wow. Where the heck did you go?

I'd never attempt conversation via text. The phone works much better. Also, don't go in for a kiss on the first date, not unless she is giving you "kiss me!" eyes.
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Old 01-22-2013, 08:30 PM
 
Location: Up in the air
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Considering it started online, she probably found someone else that she feels is a better match and wanted to let you down easy.

Thus is online dating...there's always someone better out there.
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Old 01-22-2013, 08:36 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Dinner and drinks came to $15? Wow. Where the heck did you go?

I'd never attempt conversation via text. The phone works much better. Also, don't go in for a kiss on the first date, not unless she is giving you "kiss me!" eyes.
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Old 01-22-2013, 08:42 PM
 
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This is aggravating, She is 30 years old! She is not a child..OP honestly, dump her, someone who cannot communicate is not worth it anyway. Let her go be stressed out with someone else.
Heh, just had an even worse experience with a 31 year old I met off OKC this weekend.

OP, just chalk it up to flakiness. You're young. There are plenty of women out there. No need to get bent out of shape over someone who isn't worth it. Consider yourself lucky she showed her true colors early.
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Old 01-22-2013, 08:44 PM
 
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Considering it started online, she probably found someone else that she feels is a better match and wanted to let you down easy.

Thus is online dating...there's always someone better out there.
Sad but true and I am just as guilty of thinking this way as anyone else.
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Old 01-22-2013, 08:50 PM
 
Location: The western periphery of Terra Australis
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I think she could be uncomfortable with your advances (i.e your attempt to kiss her).
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Old 01-22-2013, 08:50 PM
 
Location: Mammoth Lakes, CA
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She's not interested. Just because you had a great date doesn't mean you get to have another, nor does it mean you will have a relationship.
Exactly. Please heed that advice. Any women interested in a man doesn't pull away from a kiss and then gives you this half-assed "I'm not good at this" BS. Move on and don't look back. And learn from this: just because you had a good time doesn't mean the woman did as well.

Forget about it and find someone into you.
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Old 01-22-2013, 08:56 PM
 
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Heh, just had an even worse experience with a 31 year old I met off OKC this weekend.

OP, just chalk it up to flakiness. You're young. There are plenty of women out there. No need to get bent out of shape over someone who isn't worth it. Consider yourself lucky she showed her true colors early.
Sorry to hear that man, hope it gets better!
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Old 01-22-2013, 09:03 PM
 
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Sorry to hear that man, hope it gets better!
Meh, just goes to show you how it's practically impossible to get a good read on someone from an online dating profile.
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Old 01-22-2013, 09:41 PM
 
Location: Baltimore, MD
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"I just don't know if Im ready to date in my life right now"
"Okay, bye."
I'm not pushy and I don't beg.

Not that it matters right now but I would have picked up the tab...
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