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well i've had this discussion with other women, and they report that penetration feels amazing w/o clitoral stimulation. IMO, I don't see the point of a penis inside of me, if I have to masterbate during sex to enjoy it. I can do that by myself
Don't knock it until you try it.
Also, men have ten fingers. He can do it to you, too. Grab his hand and put it where you want it. It's just that simple.
well i dont feel like i'm apart of the majoirty. the guys i've been with treat me like i'm abnormal
Men can be ignorant, too.
Look, I'll be honest. There are men out there who will insist that every woman they've ever been with had screaming orgasms simply by being penetrated. These men are either inexperienced themselves, liars who just don't want to take the time to get you off, or prideful idiots who can't fathom the possibility that somewhere along the line a woman (or two, or three) faked it. Either way, do not take their words as gospel.
If a guy seems genuinely confused and seems disappointed that you didn't get off, consider it an opportunity to educate him. "I don't know about other women but I'm with the majority of women who need a little bit of this..."
If he seems cavalier, kick him to the curb. He shouldn't be telling you about other women he has been with, anyway.
redberry, while I agree that women aren't thrown into complete ecstasy with each thrust like pornstars like to portray, if literally all you feel is pressure going in and out, you're either not that into the guy or he's not doing it right. And this is coming from someone who doesn't o from penetration
redberry, while I agree that women aren't thrown into complete ecstasy with each thrust like pornstars like to portray, if literally all you feel is pressure going in and out, you're either not that into the guy or he's not doing it right. And this is coming from someone who doesn't o from penetration
okay so some are telling me i'm normal and others like you are telling me i'm not normal...this is why i remain confused
Mayo Clinic says you have "situational anorgasmia" which:
Situational anorgasmia. This means you are able to orgasm only during certain circumstances, such as during oral sex or masturbation. This is very common in women. In fact, most women experience orgasm only from stimulation of the clitoris.
That would make a leading medical authority calling you quite normal.
okay so some are telling me i'm normal and others like you are telling me i'm not normal...this is why i remain confused
I believe that you fall squarely where I put you. You don't want to solve any problems. You want to whinge that you are forced into the nunnery by your body and the mean ol' men who just want penetration. Here is my comprehensive advice for all the issues that it looks like you face:
- Make an appointment with a psychologist and get screened for depression. It would be helpful also to see if you could turn your negative feelings about yourself around. (Broken, not normal...) There is NO WAY your body is going to be able to respond, even under the best technique, if your mind is AFU.
- Do some reading online about the g-spot. It occupies a pretty small space. And play. Fingers are fine for clit self pleasuring. But unless you are a contortionist, they aren't so helpful on the g-spot. A rabbit ... something else.
- Get some books on female sexuality and reproductive biology and read them.
- In earnest, don't read on line forums. They are rife with people with crappy attitudes and misinformation. That includes me.
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