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Quit it already. I'm starting to think you're trolling.
I am having the most amazing sex with my current gf. It's incredible. She keeps telling me I'm the best lover ever and she has had the best o's ever in her life. She's 48 and has a comparison base. However, I'm not that good. Really, no one is. For some reason, her pleasure is such a turn on it's like my singular focus in life and getting mine is an afterthought. I haven't been like that with all women. It's just chemistry or something.
Point is, you can find something like that. As with most things in life, you get out of it what you put into it. Focus entirely on his pleasure, be the best little sex **** that ever walked the earth. Sometimes. Other times, it's your time. Be assertive. Maybe even a little dom. Tell him what he's gonna do and make him do it. Let him know you enjoy it. Nothing makes me want to keep pleasuring a woman more than seeing her feeling the pleasure. Nothing makes me want to stop quicker than seeing no visible reaction and wondering if I'm wasting my efforts.
i can't attract a man who wont present himself to me. all the partners i've had never cared about my pleasure. its always been straight to the point and done within minutes.
i can't attract a man who wont present himself to me. all the partners i've had never cared about my pleasure. its always been straight to the point and done within minutes.
Then perhaps a better question for you to ask would have been why you're not attracting (or attracted to) the right guys, and what you can do to change that.
If you haven't been showing them what works for you and incorporating it into sex with them, however, you can't blame it on them. This is especially true if you've been pretending to enjoy it when you aren't. Most guys, if they're really into you, are going to want to do what it takes to please you in bed, but they need to know what that is before they can even try.
If they know what works for you, but aren't willing to try it, and are only interested in getting themselves off every time, it means they probably don't care about you very much, which is going to manifest itself in the relationship in many ways, not just in the bedroom.
i can't attract a man who wont present himself to me. all the partners i've had never cared about my pleasure. its always been straight to the point and done within minutes.
Then perhaps a better question for you to ask would have been why you're not attracting (or attracted to) the right guys, and what you can do to change that.
If you haven't been showing them what works for you and incorporating it into sex with them, however, you can't blame it on them. This is especially true if you've been pretending to enjoy it when you aren't. Most guys, if they're really into you, are going to want to do what it takes to please you in bed, but they need to know what that is before they can even try.
If they know what works for you, but aren't willing to try it, and are only interested in getting themselves off every time, it means they probably don't care about you very much, which is going to manifest itself in the relationship in many ways, not just in the bedroom.
there's nothing i can do to change it. i can't control the type of men who are attracted to me
there's nothing i can do to change it. i can't control the type of men who are attracted to me
Into each life a few jerks will fall.
But if you think how you carry yourself, the things you say, the way you interact with people, and even what you wear and the expression on your face have no impact, you are seriously mistaken. Now you are starting to sound like one of those people who wants to blame everyone else for what happens to them.
You can't change other people. You can change yourself.
there's nothing i can do to change it. i can't control the type of men who are attracted to me
B.S.
As long as you believe that, though, it will continue to be true, which means there's really no point in asking for advice here, or anywhere else, since nothing can change, right?
All this vaginal numbness has me wondering if the OP has back problems, is overweight, or at all physically inactive?? Poor blood circulation is not helpful to sexual organs...And a gynecologist would not necessarily be trained well enough with other parts of the body to diagnose...
A friend of mine sufferred from spinal trauma as a child, and though she has a rather active & enjoyable sex life, she's admitted she does not climax during sex or masturbation due to a loss of sensation (which is controlled by certain areas of the vertebrae).
If we can rule out physical health factors, then all we have left to dissect here is the brain...
dont ask me a silly question like that. if i am ugly its my fault then?
I don't think he said that to be "silly" or to put you down. He has a point he's leading up to with his question...
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