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You don't root for your team to just barely beat it's rival but to crush them.
Umm....You're confusing two completely different definitions, you realize? One is a noun, the other is a verb, and they don't even remotely relate to each other. I certainly hope you don't crush your crushes or those on whom you have a crush, anyway. That's no way to go through life.
Oh I suppose it can happen that you crush on two at once just as you can be in "true love" with two at the same time but it isn't typical.
Please go read some research, possibly take a few biology or psychology classes at the bare minimum, and come back before posting in this thread again. You're embarrassing yourself with your lack of knowledge of basic human attraction, emotion, and behavior here.
I have a boyfriend and we have been together for almost two years and we are very serious. We started out as friends a year before that. I also have developed a huge crush on an acquaintance. I always thought he was cute but recently I have been thinking about him out of no where.
I was listening to the radio on my way home from work and when a love song came on I thought about my crush immediately and not my boyfriend. I felt great thinking about him.
I have more in common with my crush but I love my boyfriend, he is my best friend and we have a similar sense of humor. We have talked about the future and he seems serious about me as I am about him.
But the other night I was with a group of friends and my crush and he was so fun to be with, I seriously hadn't had that much fun in a very long time. He isn't a flirt, he is just really nice to me and very intelligent. I arrived home feeling exhilarated.
I can't stop thinking of my crush. Is this normal? healthy? I want to see him again but I would never cheat.
Does this happen to married people or people in healthy relationships?
How should I handle this?
Crushes happen to everyone, regardless of how happy they are in their current relationships. You cannot control your thoughts, only your actions. If you and your BF have a monogamous commitment, you can honor it by not acting on your crush. Expecting not to occasionally have crushes on other people is not realistic.
A lot of people here are not defining "crush" in the right way, they're making it out to be more than it is. Having a crush on a colleague or another person is not making you "vulnerable." As I said, I have had several crushes on other men while married. I was never remotely vulnerable to sleeping with any of them. It was just thinking they were sexy, handsome or had a great personality. And who says you have to act "giddy" around them? I always told my husband about these crushes. I would just say, "Craig is the new department chairman and he is adorable." My husband isn't threatened. I'm not going out and sleeping with Craig, just thinking he's a handsome guy.
I think it's absurd to remotely suggest that anyone who has been married for years has NEVER found another person attractive. How can that be, unless you're living in a box? And being attracted to another person is utterly extraneous from "not being committed." Using that ridiculous logic, any man that checks out other women or jerks off over porn is "not committed" to their marriage. The suggestion is absurd.
Why so hostile? i clearly put how i think being attracted to others is perfectly normal i just think crushes/infautations are on another levle becasue its more then juust thinking "well he or she is attractive" and moving on
What you're describing as a crush is way more intense than what I would consider a crush. To me, a crush is a silly little thing where you enjoy seeing and talking to the person, and you think they're cute, but you acknowledge that nothing can or should come of it. It's harmless, not obsessive.
My definition of crush is more in line with ocean which is why I was shocked to see so many married people say they've had crushes. But I think it's a matter of how you define crush. To me, it's a deeper infatuation with someone where you find them attractive and think about them often. In my life, I've only ever had a crush on one person at any given time.
I think the original poster needs to tread carefully because the feelings she's describing appear to go beyond simply finding someone attractive.
Umm....You're confusing two completely different definitions, you realize? One is a noun, the other is a verb, and they don't even remotely relate to each other. I certainly hope you don't crush your crushes or those on whom you have a crush, anyway. That's no way to go through life.
Umm... you're taking things literal and not seeing the prevailing theme - extreme and intense.
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