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I think dating is not the same guidelines or customs, as say a dinner party, in which case I'd probably bring a bottle of wine or something, but I don't as a rule bring things if I go to my bf's. When he is here, I provide for us, and when I'm at his place he provides for us. It all balances out. If your guy is coming over and eating all your food all the time and not reciprocating or taking you out, that is a different problem.
Do you expect them to bring something? Or at least ask if you need something?
Idk why, but this is a huge turnoff for me.
Its like, you come to house, use my bathroom, eat food, watch TV, maybe end up taking a shower, the least you can do is bring something.
Something to drink, a bag of chips, some oreos, hell, even a box of tissues. Something!
I just feel like this is common courtesy. I do that whenever I go to anyone's house. Whether I'm dating them or not.
Just shows how considerate a person is.
Is this a particular person who repeatedly comes to your place, doesn't reciprocate, and you're feeling taken advantage of?
I don't expect people to bring anything when they come over, but I always take something wherever I'm going. SO and I have been dating for a couple of years, and we alternate houses each weekend and still come with something in hand. This week was just a new flavour of crackers I knew he'd love, last week he brought a bottle of wine from his homemade collection. My mom will come over to visit, and bring me a chocolate bar, or vice versa.
Even though someone is hosting, I like to contribute in some way, as a thank you for their kindness.
No. Absolutely not. Many people will bring something on their own, but I would not request it of them. Now if we are a group of friends or family getting together for something, then I may say, "Would you mind bringing....?" Usually someone would ask if there is anything they can bring before I ask.
But if you are inviting someone new to your place, I don't think you should ask or expect they bring anything.
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