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^^^^ clearly there will be no trip. I don't see anything wrong with texting as long as there are dates. But there have not been enough dates, nor have there been texts so I will be bummed for a day and then let it go. At least I finally found someone I like, I'll find another.
^^^^ clearly there will be no trip. I don't see anything wrong with texting as long as there are dates. But there have not been enough dates, nor have there been texts so I will be bummed for a day and then let it go. At least I finally found someone I like, I'll find another.
When you find the next one, how will you alter your behavior in order to get a better outcome?
When you find the next one, how will you alter your behavior in order to get a better outcome?
It's all about balance. And belief in myself. I thought he was the prize. So when he didn't want to set a place to meet, only a vague time ("3ish", I think he said.) I became nervous the date wasn't going to happen. So when he pushed back the time, with a perfectly legitimate reason (to be honest), I was not wanting to wait around because I thought he wouldn't follow through. So I overreacted. Yes, respect my time, but I should have given him the benefit of the doubt, or at least been nicer about it if I didn't want to wait around. In the future I will realize I have a tendency to overreact and a tendency to fear I'm not what the person wants. He's a catch , for someone, but not me. I am not so bad myself. lol. So balance, confidence and mutual respect but most of all- no overreacting. Thank you for your comments.
When you find the next one, how will you alter your behavior in order to get a better outcome?
I have to admit the thing that stuck out to me in the OP was her comment about refusing to push back the start time of the date. I guess it would depend on the context because if he was asking for 15 minutes because he was called into a last minute meeting, or had to pick up his kid from daycare, or had some unexpected emergency, that seems unreasonably inflexible. But, if he was saying he needed to push the date back two hours, then I think it is reasonable to cancel the plans.
It's all about balance. And belief in myself. I thought he was the prize. So when he didn't want to set a place to meet, only a vague time ("3ish", I think he said.) I became nervous the date wasn't going to happen. So when he pushed back the time, with a perfectly legitimate reason (to be honest), I was not wanting to wait around because I thought he wouldn't follow through. So I overreacted. Yes, respect my time, but I should have given him the benefit of the doubt, or at least been nicer about it if I didn't want to wait around. In the future I will realize I have a tendency to overreact and a tendency to fear I'm not what the person wants. He's a catch , for someone, but not me. I am not so bad myself. lol. So balance, confidence and mutual respect but most of all- no overreacting. Thank you for your comments.
I have to admit the thing that stuck out to me in the OP was her comment about refusing to push back the start time of the date. I guess it would depend on the context because if he was asking for 15 minutes because he was called into a last minute meeting, or had to pick up his kid from daycare, or had some unexpected emergency, that seems unreasonably inflexible. But, if he was saying he needed to push the date back two hours, then I think it is reasonable to cancel the plans.
He didn't specify how long. Just asked me did I have to work later that night. I said I did not. So it was an "I'll call you later". I know I also need to lighten up , but I do not like vague plans (nor do I like waiting around all day on my day off.) so I said "No, I'm going to make other plans."
He didn't specify how long. Just asked me did I have to work later that night. I said I did not. So it was an "I'll call you later". I know I also need to lighten up , but I do not like vague plans (nor do I like waiting around all day on my day off.) so I said "No, I'm going to make other plans."
Thanks. That provides more clarification and you were right to bounce out of that.
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