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He's not interested in you. He's a bank teller, he's supposed to greet you with a smile.
Wow.
Noted. I did think about this.
That being said, I've been in hundreds of customer service lines and the smiles this guy gave seemed... different... kind of like almost trying to avoid blushing. It got my attention in a way that others have not. I might be totally nuts though.
It's really hard to tell, he could be interested? Have you tried having a more casual conversation or complimenting him on his jacket? I work in retail and I occasionally flirt with male customers and have definitely been flirted with, so it definitely possible that it is more than a hello and a pasted on customer service smile.
Is there a gay bar near this bank? Do you know what time he gets off? Sometimes people hang out in bars after work; I've seen my local bank guy, Starbucks guy, my friend's doctor, and my mail man at our neighborhood gay bar. If he's not there then you can see what it is like, maybe a strike up a conversation with someone. You can always pay your tab and go home if you're uncomfortable.
That being said, I've been in hundreds of customer service lines and the smiles this guy gave seemed... different... kind of like almost trying to avoid blushing. It got my attention in a way that others have not. I might be totally nuts though.
You are totally nuts. It was probably a "hurry up man, my shift's almost over" smile.
Okay, I think what I'm going to do based on reading this is the next time I go to the bank, if he's there and reasonably accessible, try to have a discussion that's a little more substantial than "I'd like 50 dollars from savings" or whatever, but nothing really beyond surface level stuff. If he's there but not reasonably accessible, I'll just give him a little acknowledgement or something like I did last time. Otherwise, I'll try to look in places where things might be a bit clearer, and not worry about this situation too much.
Okay, I think what I'm going to do based on reading this is the next time I go to the bank, if he's there and reasonably accessible, try to have a discussion that's a little more substantial than "I'd like 50 dollars from savings" or whatever, but nothing really beyond surface level stuff. If he's there but not reasonably accessible, I'll just give him a little acknowledgement or something like I did last time. Otherwise, I'll try to look in places where things might be a bit clearer, and not worry about this situation too much.
Thoughts?
Sounds like a good plan, be sure to give some eye contact (don't stare though), don't make direct physical contact (accidental hand brush), but a small gesture like push you hair to the side or put your hand to your neck briefly.
If you don't get any greater sense of attraction, you're right that you should pursue other options.
That being said, I've been in hundreds of customer service lines and the smiles this guy gave seemed... different... kind of like almost trying to avoid blushing. It got my attention in a way that others have not. I might be totally nuts though.
PUA techniques also used in the gay community? Now that takes guts! LOL
This person may be attracted to you (or not), but remember that the two of you are in his place of employment. Be careful that you aren't bringing attention that he may want kept under wraps.
(I'm not saying in regard to his/your sexuality. I just don't think I'd want my co-workers/manager seeing/knowing that I was flirting with a customer.)
Is there a place you can observe him unseen or look occupied? If so, look to see how he interacts with both male and female customers. If he treats them differently than you, then he might have interest in you.
This person may be attracted to you (or not), but remember that the two of you are in his place of employment. Be careful that you aren't bringing attention that he may want kept under wraps.
(I'm not saying in regard to his/your sexuality. I just don't think I'd want my co-workers/manager seeing/knowing that I was flirting with a customer.)
Yep - I'm aware of this. That's part of the reason I was asking for advice about how to proceed - I don't want to draw any unwanted attention. Thanks for the heads up though.
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