Woman asking man to marry? Not okay?? Insight! (boyfriend, girlfriend, marriage)

[foundeachotherinthedark]

Hey everyone

I've been with my boyfriend long enough to know we are going to get married. I supposed its just a matter of time. And NO I am not that crazy girlfriend waiting for a ring. I will be 28 this year, him 26. We both have talked about it, established what we both want, and it is the same. It will happen. I'm not looking to ask him because I CANT wait. I never event expected this to happen. Long story short- before him I dated women- so my stand on marriage and proposals isn't exactly traditional. I don't see any harm in me buying him a ring (already know what I want) and asking him- BUT i don't want to take the experience and felling away from him. What do you think? What if I buy it and keep it around- so if/when he does I have an exchange of the same feelings/wants/needs/future as he does? Or If i just flat out just ask?

Any suggestions would be great.


We live in NYC, have 3 dogs. Want kinds in the near future.

[BirdieBelle]

Originally Posted by foundeachotherinthedark

so my stand on marriage and proposals isn't exactly traditional.

One important piece of information would be ... what is HIS stance on marriage and proposals?

[Laychick]

Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life

One important piece of information would be ... what is HIS stance on marriage and proposals?

Yeah, I would want to know what he thinks before doing something like this. Nothing worst than getting rejecting on a marriage proposal.

I don't think I would ever propose to a man unless, I knew the guy was ok with it and the answer was a definite yes. Still, I would like getting proposed instead.