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Old 02-12-2013, 01:55 PM
 
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Because I refuse to date men lacking in morals I will be alone? Luckily there are still men with morals.

So where's yours?

 
Old 02-12-2013, 01:57 PM
 
Location: Seattle, WA
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Getting a divorce is not failure, and I wish this meme would die a fiery death. If never marrieds feel this way, perhaps you shouldn't get married because if you divorce, you'll probably have a nervous breakdown. There isn't a counselor or therapist, either religious or secular worth their professional degree would ever tell a divorced person you failed at saving your marriage. I'm divorced and it took a long time not to see myself as failing at marriage. My counselor said that are unrealistic standards and expectations based on false perceptions by people who have unreasonable standards of marriage.

So if domestic violence, infidelity, porn addictions, drug or alcoholic addictions, gambler, criminal activity, etc., or when a spouse hardens their heart to you, then divorce happens, does that translates into you falling at marriage? Not in the real world. Divorce is heartbreaking and soul crushing when a marriage didn't work out. Most divorced people like myself did not get married to get divorced. I wouldn't date a never married guy that felt that divorce was failure. As I embark on dating again as a divorced woman, the reason for divorce would depend on the individual. 5 years ago,I dated a guy who cheated on his wife after 10 years of marriage, no kids, and I always wondered if he would do the same to me.
 
Old 02-12-2013, 01:58 PM
 
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So where's yours?
I have morals. I don't sleep around or use drugs and give to charities.
 
Old 02-12-2013, 02:00 PM
 
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Divorced guys have already shown that they are willing to commit to marriage
 
Old 02-12-2013, 02:00 PM
 
Location: Keosauqua, Iowa
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Originally Posted by Idon'tdateyou View Post
Well then you are a guy lacking in morals.
Please elaborate. I really want to know exactly how I am lacking in morals.

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Then again I know what old biddies are and you don't so I am not going to argue with less educated people.
First of all, I didn't say old biddy, I said biddy. The fact that you added the word old probably says something about how you view yourself.

Second of all, by definition a biddy is a woman, usually thought of as old but not necessarily so, Who is gossipy, annoying, fussy, mean, or interfering. I don't know if you are gossipy or interfering, but you are definitely fussy and annoying and seem pretty mean, as well. In other words, a biddy.

Thirdly, at this point I'm pretty sure you're a troll.

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Less educated people don't realize the affect of society on the kids but smart people do.
This "less educated" person is well educated enough to know that you should have used effect instead of affect in that sentence.

And for your information, I am well aware of the effect society has on kids. Not because I'm educated, but because I have one.
 
Old 02-12-2013, 02:01 PM
 
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Divorced guys have already shown that they are willing to commit to marriage
Not really, it just means they were married. If they cheated on their wife then no they weren't committed to marriage.
 
Old 02-12-2013, 02:01 PM
 
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I thought that the New Testament(the Bible) actually allowed for a person to get a divorce so long as that person does not re-marry. Am I wrong about this?
 
Old 02-12-2013, 02:03 PM
 
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Because I refuse to date men lacking in morals I will be alone? Luckily there are still men with morals.
Arent men who dont wait until marriage to loose their virginity lacking in morals? Arent women?
 
Old 02-12-2013, 02:04 PM
 
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Please elaborate. I really want to know exactly how I am lacking in morals.



Firs of all, I didn't say old biddy, I said biddy. A biddy is a woman, usually thought of as old but not necessarily so, Who is gossipy, annoying, fussy, mean, or interfering. I don't know if you are gossipy or interfering, but you are definitely fussy and annoying and seem pretty mean, as well. In other words, a biddy.

Second of all, at this point I'm pretty sure you're a troll.



this "less educated" person is well educated enough to know that you should have used effect instead of affect in that sentence.

And for your information, I am well aware of the effect society has on kids. Not because I'm educated, but because I have one.
Because I feel divorced people are often lacking in morals I am a troll? then if you have a kid you should have stayed married. You better believe I am mean because I am tired of men who failed in marriage trying to contact me on dating sites. I am not interested in taking care of his kids.
 
Old 02-12-2013, 02:04 PM
 
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I have morals. I don't sleep around or use drugs and give to charities.
Based on this definition, I have morals too. However, I also have compassion and am at least willing to hear a person's story before I immediately dismiss them.
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