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Old 02-12-2013, 12:59 PM
 
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So because I refuse to date men without morals I will be alone? According to that only men lacking in morals are left. No thanks I will pass.
Divorced men are not without morals, that is just an incredibly stupid, judgmental and inane statement to make. Date whomever you please, no-one cares, but don't come to a forum blathering and expect not to be taken to task about it.

 
Old 02-12-2013, 01:00 PM
 
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Well, all your relationships probably ended because you were a horrible girlfriend. Men should stay away from you since all of your past relationships ended in failure and it was probably your fault. And since you aren't a virgin - you aren't planning on wearing white at your wedding - are you?
Dating is different than being married. Being married is an act of God, dating isn't. I didn't make the vow to someone else and God "til death do us part".
 
Old 02-12-2013, 01:01 PM
 
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Divorced men are not without morals, that is just an incredibly stupid, judgmental and inane statement to make. Date whomever you please, no-one cares, but don't come to a forum blathering and expect not to be taken to task about it.
Divorced men with children more than likely are lacking morals (except in the cases I mentioned). This is something people don't want to hear but it is true. Marriage is supposed to be forever and when it's not they are breaking a serious vow.
 
Old 02-12-2013, 01:01 PM
 
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And since you aren't a virgin - you aren't planning on wearing white at your wedding - are you?
Would love to know the answer to this gem!
 
Old 02-12-2013, 01:02 PM
 
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Often it's the divorced mother who failed to preserve the marriage and left the man. You may be lumping the good with the bad, but of course there's no easy way to tell.

On the flip side, single - and divorced - men are often uninterested in divorced - or sigle - mothers.
That's an interesting perspective.
 
Old 02-12-2013, 01:02 PM
 
Location: Arizona
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How can you say they're lacking in morals if you don't know them or their situation?
 
Old 02-12-2013, 01:02 PM
 
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I don't think anyone is specifically saying you should date them. Rather, they are pointing out that at 42 it is going to be a lot harder to meet a man in your desired age range (which is what, btw?) who has never been married and doesn't have kids than it will be to find one that is divorced but otherwise meets your standards.

Out of curiosity, how is it a failure if they married in church vs civilly?
 
Old 02-12-2013, 01:02 PM
 
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Why wouldn't you even consider factors that lead up to divorce.

Cheating
Gambling problems
Shopaholic
Verbal abuser
Alcohlic
Pet abuser
Steals
Lazy to the extremes
Goes insane
Mean to children
Launders money
Doesn't talk to him
And more ....
Doesn't talk to him isn't a valid reason for divorce. Neither is shopaholic as this is something he should have seen beforehand.
 
Old 02-12-2013, 01:03 PM
 
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Why wouldn't you even consider factors that lead up to divorce.

Cheating
Gambling problems
Shopaholic
Verbal abuser
Alcohlic
Pet abuser
Steals
Lazy to the extremes
Goes insane
Mean to children
Launders money
Doesn't talk to him
And more ....
Come on, Raena. Get with the program. Haven't you figured out by now that it's always the man's fault? Sheesh!
 
Old 02-12-2013, 01:03 PM
 
Location: Reno, NV
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Dating is different than being married. Being married is an act of God, dating isn't.
Ah! That's where we differ! Completely different belief systems. You need to find someone who shares yours, and from what I hear, that's a lot harder than it should be given the number of people who apparently say they share it.
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