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Old 02-12-2013, 01:18 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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The white = virgin thing is dumb, you guys. The fancy white dress is a sign of wealth, not purity.
The white dress is also a sign of sexual purity.

I mean - I think it's dumb. But I also think that saying that all divorced men are failures is dumb.

 
Old 02-12-2013, 01:18 PM
 
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What can a divorced dad offer a childless woman that a childless man can't?
what can a childless man offer a woman that a divorced one cant???...
 
Old 02-12-2013, 01:20 PM
 
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what can a childless man offer a woman that a divorced one cant???...
The fact he isn't a failure at marriage. A divorced one is. Not to mention she will never be his true love.
 
Old 02-12-2013, 01:21 PM
 
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A good man to me is childless and never married so no don't need to lower my standards. A good man more than likely doesn't fail at marriage especially if he has kids.
So a man who puts you down, belittles you at every turn and treats you like crap is a good man simply because he's never married and doesn't have kids so he has morals, but the man who got married in the church at 25 and is now a divorced 45 year old who is fighting for sole custody because his ex is an unhinged lunatic he doesn't feel is fit to be a parent is a bad man with no morals. Got it.

I think what people are trying to stress is divorced men aren't as black and white as you'd make it out to be.
 
Old 02-12-2013, 01:21 PM
 
Location: Reno, NV
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1. Why divorced dads don't want to date single moms is bizarre. I think it boils down to many of these men are delusional.

2. What can a divorced dad offer a childless woman that a childless man can't?
1. Well, obviously those women failed at their relationship, so "of course" (from what I hear!) any self-respecting man will avoid them and the associated problems and baggage. They are far from delusional - they are careful. I don't think they are the delusional ones.

2. Experience.
 
Old 02-12-2013, 01:21 PM
 
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The fact he isn't a failure at marriage. A divorced one is. Not to mention she will never be his true love.
seems to be something in my throat.....cough cough 'troll' cough cough
 
Old 02-12-2013, 01:21 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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So just be single. Problem solved.
 
Old 02-12-2013, 01:22 PM
 
Location: Minneapolis (St. Louis Park)
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For some unexplained reason older women are told that divorced men are so terrific and we should date them instead of never married men our age. Why, no idea. Anyway, when it comes to divorce I would only consider men who were married civilly like at a courthouse. I don't consider men married in church unless (and only unless)they were annulled. Otherwise? probably not.

When it comes to divorce with kids though I only believe in divorce if there was abuse or cheating. Otherwise no, they are lacking morals and the idea that people tell me to date these men insults my religion and my morals.
That's cool, your preference I suppose. I am a potential divorcee with kids and we WOULD BE divorcing for reasons other than assault or cheating. We would be divorcing because as much as we respect one-another we are bad as a unit and it is negatively affecting everything in our lives, especially our child. We are trying to make the decision as to whether it's better to raise a family with unhappy parents but not divorce, or divorce and (hopefully) have both parents find happiness and have a solid foundation from which to parent their children. So I can be half the father to my children and live with them or 100% the father and man I can be and see them every day/week but not live with them.

It's not an easy choice and no firm decisions have been made but this is the direction we are headed at the moment, and threads like these make me worry that others out there will judge either of us when dating despite the fact that they don't know the facts. Makes people not want to tell the truth....
 
Old 02-12-2013, 01:23 PM
 
Location: Arizona
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If your marriage to a childless, never married man in his 40s failed, would that mean that you are lacking morals?
 
Old 02-12-2013, 01:24 PM
 
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Doesn't it grow back after awhile?
Yes, as long as you don't ride a bike!
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