Directed towards the OP..
I do not agree with you 100% regarding one must be wealthy in order to be happy however I am not sure how you meant your query by the thread..
If you mean that only “poverty stricken people state that money cannot buy love?” I would say it would all depend on the context in which it is used..
There are pros and cons to excess and extremes to both sides of the spectrum…
On one side you have people living under the “Poverty level” that state that money is not needed to have a fulfilling life, however this is a case by case basis since not everyone is the same..
You will have a family of 7 living on one meager income and while the family may seem intact and loving there is always “worry” and a sense of “struggle” and in survival mode…
The parents may see it as sufficient however if asked their children will state a different story and may reflect differing views as they reach adult hood.
On the opposite spectrum you have the “rich” family..material things come easy, their children go to the best schools, their children have the best of the best yet they lack ethics and know how because everything is handed to them..causing boredom which causes issues..
In between you have the family that has enough..
Often times we forget that happy medium..
We tend to base poverty and wealth on extremes…
When it is basic…And is based on Maslow’s hierarchy..this is well known and cannot be refuted..
We tend to think of “wealth” as cars, big homes, private schools, proper attire for us and our children, the basic needs, food and shelter..The fact that we are not having to choose which utility to pay each month and get behind on the others…
Always living on the skirts of arrest…losing something that is considered a basic need..When we are threatened to lose our basic needs? We all go into “Survival mode” This is a constant abnormal stressor in life…and life as well as social, emotional relationships are affected whether we choose to believe it or not..
Which brings me to a personal I.E.
Before I got a divorce? I lived a very lush or what I consider a lush life..My ex was an officer in the military, I was a teacher..We owned a nice home in TX. Our son attended private school, we had nice vehichles, a 600.00 electricity bill in summer and did not stress about it..
When we moved back to ca? We still had great jobs, we owned our own home, still had nice vehicles, our son still attended private school…
When we divorced in 2005? Even though I got a great amount on child support and alimony I was living on one income..
My child support went on paying for my son…his private school, and his needs..my money? Went on my now 2400.00 mortgage.
My utilities, groceries and car payment..we still had what we needed only the spending money was lacking and my son was ok with this..
I met a man that had a commission only job..I was with him for 2 years..
He lived in my home and barely ever gave me half the rent let alone the utilities..
Then after one year after being together he asked me about having a child with him? Ummmmm….kids cost money..I am money savvy.
I was making less than I am now and I stated to him, “I make enough to cover all expenses and still there is enough to save for trips and goodies for my son, but add another child?” “There will be a different shift in expenses.”
“Let us not count my family leave after the baby? The child care, I am not going to burden my mother with another grandchild she is taking care of my new niece.”
“Diapers, formula, getting paid 75% while I am on leave?”
His response?
“My mom said all you need is love”
REALLY?
I had to remind him that he had lived in double wide trailers that they have lost due to mudslides..not having friends over because he was to embarrassed..His parents RENTED a small 2 bedroom condo on the bad side of town in another city and had borrowed money from me 4x since the last year? For utilities..
The father had copd and was oxygen and was getting county assistance for..They did not know where there their next meal was coming from..
His mother had taken over his fathers courier route and was getting aid from the county..
Most recently? They drove from ca to Oregon to live in their adult daughters back yard whom married well to retire? In their Trailer?
This is not responsible I told him..You have children when you are financially responsible period…
Needless to state? We broke up 2009..
He finally had his kid from a woman that already had 2..They broke up, she know lives with her mother and works at Ross Dress for Less..
He lives in a nearby city works at Home Depot, takes the bus to work everyday and pays her support and is living with a friend…
Big difference between “Love is all you need” from being financially responsible and getting what you need to be okay…
He hit me up 4 months ago for 500.00? I asked him to hit his parents up because I was no longer with him and I was not an ATM..his response? “My parents do not have money to give” BIG SURPRISE…tell them to give you some of that love that makes the world go round..!
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