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I am sure this happens to many of you on occasion. The pickup attempt by what I'll deem the "sketchy" guy. There are many types of sketchy guy out there. Mostly harmless. But let's just say they are clearly unsuitable.
The sketchy guy might be really old. Or really sleazy. Or a combo of the two. Or could just be someone who has a completely incompatible lifestyle to yours (i.e. you are walking to the subway, and they are smoking on the corner).
One thing, I find, in all of my experiences with the "sketchy guy" they all seem to have this innate confidence that they absolutely have a chance! So they keep on trying!
Today I was headed to the bus stop, and there was a man who looks maybe 10 years younger than my dad. He asks me, if he was on the right side of the street for the bus, and how to get somewhere. I wasn't completely sure how to get to that place on the bus, and then he shows me his google directions and I confirmed that those directions were OK.
I would have thought that was the end of the conversation. But I was wrong. He then proceeded to quiz me about my relationship status. (I, like many women, invent fake boyfriends to hopefully get these people to stop talking. It works 50% of the time). He proceeds to keep trying, make comments about my appearance. And then of course gets into his life story. (for the record, I look like I am headed to work today. At an office. In a knee length shirt dress and tights.)
You are probably wondering why I deemed this guy the sketchy guy:
a. He looked 50-something. I maybe look 30. I know some women like much older men. I am not one of those, and 20 years is a big gap.
b. As he was telling me about his life story, he mentioned he was just leaving a halfway house.
c. He asked for directions to the "motel." Now the only motels in the vicinity of this bus stop are the kind that likely accept payment by the hour, about a mile away, in an area known for prostitution.
I politely declined his request for my phone number.
How do you guys handle the come-ons by the sketchy guy?
All I heard was that you don't have a boyfriend....
In defense of the guy, we have no idea who is or isn't in our league...and honestly, we don't care. We see gargoyle men with women we'd kill for, and we see absolute cows with guys that should be with Mila Kunis...
Your gender has no rhyme or reason....half the time we come off as sketchy, desperate, too aggressive...the other half we're in your pants...
So, yeah...most guys will just assume they're in until you pull out the mace....
How do you guys handle the come-ons by the sketchy guy?
Give him your address, phone number, and tell him your underwear size. Tell him to meet you at your place around 6 and when he gets there, he'll realize you gave him the address and phone info for the local police station. Maybe he'll meet the love he's been desiring after they throw him in the joint...lol
He is only sketchy to you, because you werent attracted to him. If you were, you would not think there was anything wrong with what he said or did. We are men and we have to approach, in public or not, if we ever want a date. Perhaps the man thought that you'd like him and would be interested in seeing him. Ladies, dont get in a huff because you get approached. It takes courage and sometimes creativity to be able to approach women in public, and there is nothing sketchy or creepy about it. Take it as a compliment, and if youre not interested, just tell him that.
You are probably wondering why I deemed this guy the sketchy guy:
a. He looked 50-something. I maybe look 30. I know some women like much older men. I am not one of those, and 20 years is a big gap.
He's sketchy because you don't like older men? How's that make sense?
Give him your address, phone number, and tell him your underwear size. Tell him to meet you at your place around 6 and when he gets there, he'll realize you gave him the address and phone info for the local police station. Maybe he'll meet the love he's been desiring after they throw him in the joint...lol
He's sketchy because you don't like older men? How's that make sense?
I think he was sketchy because unlike all the other men in the world, he doesnt have a crystal ball to tell him that Jade doesnt like older guys, even if many women do. The nerve.
It was just a joke...lol....I was thinking in terms of how sketchy the OP said this guy was. If he was 'that' sketchy then most likely the police would have harrased him and found a reason to lock him up.
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