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Long story short. I dated a guy on and off for about a year and a 1/2 but we never announced our relationship as girlfriend/boyfriend. Was very fond of this man as I found his friendship/companionship quite refreshing...Sad thing is I don't think he felt the same way I felt. I thinked he viewed me as just a friend.... In November a job opportunity in another city prompted him to up and leave our current city. However before we left, our goodbyes were not on good terms... Have not spoken or talked to him since Nov2012. I find myself wanting to email or text him to say hi and to see how things are going with him, but Im torn....I mean if he wanted to communicate he would call me or email or text...RIGHT????? I mean he has my email address and phone number. I Just don't want to put myself out there and appear needy....Thoughts?
It sounds like he has cut ties. Sure, you can make an attempt, but if he ignores you or replies in a negative way, can you handle that? Nothing ventured, nothing gained - but be prepared for the consequences.
I find myself wanting to email or text him to say hi and to see how things are going with him, but Im torn....I mean if he wanted to communicate he would call me or email or text...RIGHT?????
No. Not if he's like you, right?
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Long story short. I dated a guy on and off for about a year and a 1/2 but we never announced our relationship as girlfriend/boyfriend. Was very fond of this man as I found his friendship/companionship quite refreshing...Sad thing is I don't think he felt the same way I felt. I thinked he viewed me as just a friend....
You think he viewed you as a friend? Did you not talk to each other?
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I mean he has my email address and phone number. I Just don't want to put myself out there and appear needy....Thoughts?
I think that people with this mindset drive me crazy.
You don't want to contact him because you might come across as needy?
If you contacted him would you label him as needy?
Call him. Text him. Email him. "Hey, what's up? Wanted to say I was sorry about how things ended with us and wondered how things were going for you in ..."
Long story short. I dated a guy on and off for about a year and a 1/2 but we never announced our relationship as girlfriend/boyfriend. Was very fond of this man as I found his friendship/companionship quite refreshing...Sad thing is I don't think he felt the same way I felt. I thinked he viewed me as just a friend.... In November a job opportunity in another city prompted him to up and leave our current city. However before we left, our goodbyes were not on good terms... Have not spoken or talked to him since Nov2012. I find myself wanting to email or text him to say hi and to see how things are going with him, but Im torn....I mean if he wanted to communicate he would call me or email or text...RIGHT????? I mean he has my email address and phone number. I Just don't want to put myself out there and appear needy....Thoughts?
Why bother if he doesn't feel the same way. It could be a painful experience for you to contact him now. I you do decide to contact him you have to adjust your expectations to zero AND be prepared because he could be involved with someone else now.
On a side note your post reminded me of that "torn" song from the late 90s. Anyone remember that one? They played it a lot back then on the radio. It had the line "so I guess the fortune tellers right." That's all I remember about it.
I find myself wanting to email or text him to say hi and to see how things are going with him, but Im torn....I mean if he wanted to communicate he would call me or email or text...RIGHT????? I mean he has my email address and phone number. I Just don't want to put myself out there and appear needy....Thoughts?
He could be thinking the very same thing. In that case, there are two people wasting time, because each is waiting for the other to make the first contact. Someone has to do it. Does it make a difference who does? If it doesn't feel right, then you will have your answer, and you can go about your life.
Go ahead and contact him, you'll be able to tell quickly if he wants to talk to you or not. And don't worry about rejection-happens to everyone.
vaughanwilliams = Ralph Vaughan Williams the composer?
"Lincoln County Road or Armageddon", that's from a great Dylan song! From my favorite Dylan album!
No harm in trying to make contact with him, but don't be surprised if he doesn't want to contact you back if he lost interest when he left on bad terms with you.
If I decide to reach out? - Does anyone have any icebreakers?
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In November a job opportunity in another city prompted him to up and leave our current city. However before we left, our goodbyes were not on good terms... Have not spoken or talked to him since Nov2012. I find myself wanting to email or text him to say hi and to see how things are going with him, but Im torn....I mean if he wanted to communicate he would call me or email or text...RIGHT????? I mean he has my email address and phone number. I Just don't want to put myself out there and appear needy....Thoughts?
