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Old 02-26-2013, 07:58 PM
 
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I could use some advice from the more seasoned among us. When you're in a relationship, how do you know that the person is right for you? Nobody's perfect, but how can you tell that they're imperfections are worth overlooking?

I don't ever want to be that guy that says "I love you" only to discover later that love ain't enough and break things off and hurt someone. What do you all think?
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Old 02-26-2013, 08:01 PM
 
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You just get a feeling where everything just feels right. although, I have yet to meet someone who is perfect for me, or else I'd be married. but I do know when i'll know.
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Old 02-26-2013, 08:08 PM
 
Location: NoVa
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I have been there. I have loved a person but known that I could not marry them. Despite they way he treated me, I still loved him but I knew in my mind I did not want him to be my forever. I did not want to wake up to him for the rest of my life and live the miserable life I was living.

The reason I know my SO IS the one for me is because I can see myself with him for the rest of my days. I know I want to lay my head down next to him at night and wake up there in the morning.

I think you have to be able to feel a permanence with the person to know they are right.
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Old 02-26-2013, 08:13 PM
 
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I have been there. I have loved a person but known that I could not marry them. Despite they way he treated me, I still loved him but I knew in my mind I did not want him to be my forever. I did not want to wake up to him for the rest of my life and live the miserable life I was living.

The reason I know my SO IS the one for me is because I can see myself with him for the rest of my days. I know I want to lay my head down next to him at night and wake up there in the morning.

I think you have to be able to feel a permanence with the person to know they are right.
I get it. Thanks.
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Old 02-26-2013, 08:13 PM
 
Location: Pa
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When you see way more good in the person.
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Old 02-26-2013, 09:07 PM
 
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I have been there. I have loved a person but known that I could not marry them. Despite they way he treated me, I still loved him but I knew in my mind I did not want him to be my forever. I did not want to wake up to him for the rest of my life and live the miserable life I was living.

The reason I know my SO IS the one for me is because I can see myself with him for the rest of my days. I know I want to lay my head down next to him at night and wake up there in the morning.

I think you have to be able to feel a permanence with the person to know they are right.
Yep.
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Old 02-26-2013, 09:46 PM
 
Location: Albuquerque, NM
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I could use some advice from the more seasoned among us. When you're in a relationship, how do you know that the person is right for you? Nobody's perfect, but how can you tell that they're imperfections are worth overlooking?
Experience.
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Old 02-26-2013, 09:50 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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I could use some advice from the more seasoned among us. When you're in a relationship, how do you know that the person is right for you? Nobody's perfect, but how can you tell that they're imperfections are worth overlooking?

I don't ever want to be that guy that says "I love you" only to discover later that love ain't enough and break things off and hurt someone. What do you all think?

Don't choose the one you can live with - choose the one you know you can't live without.
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Old 02-26-2013, 09:53 PM
 
Location: Albuquerque, NM
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Don't choose the one you can live with - choose the one you know you can't live without.
That's ridiculous. I can live without anyone.
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Old 02-26-2013, 09:57 PM
 
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If you have to ask someone else then it is not them and if "you" were actually part of "the seasoned among us" you would not have to ask the question because you would already know the answer.
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