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I've been a couple, lets call them, semi serious relationships, where I'm more or less living with a girl...and I've always found I'm "living with the girl"...that is, though I have my own place, we're always at her place...
I wonder, is that normal? Or does it typically happen the other way around? My place is usually very spartan...tv, couch, bed room...just the basics. As the relationship grows, I find that I abandon my place and move in with her...just because her place is usually nicer...cozier, if you will.
Is that the way it typically happens? Do guys typically have a place, abandon it, move in with the girl, then get a place together afterwards? Or is it usually the girl who'll give up her place, before you get your own place?
Actually, of the few examples I know of in real life, it's almost always the girl who moves in with the guy (though I'm not sure how serious those relationship were)...so, why has it been different for me?
Does it matter?
It's interesting also because there is a power dynamic to it...who comes to who? Should I want the girl to come to me? Or should I want to go to the girl?
I've been a couple, lets call them, semi serious relationships, where I'm more or less living with a girl...and I've always found I'm "living with the girl"...that is, though I have my own place, we're always at her place...
I wonder, is that normal? Or does it typically happen the other way around? My place is usually very spartan...tv, couch, bed room...just the basics. As the relationship grows, I find that I abandon my place and move in with her...just because her place is usually nicer...cozier, if you will.
Is that the way it typically happens? Do guys typically have a place, abandon it, move in with the girl, then get a place together afterwards? Or is it usually the girl who'll give up her place, before you get your own place?
Actually, of the few examples I know of in real life, it's almost always the girl who moves in with the guy (though I'm not sure how serious those relationship were)...so, why has it been different for me?
Does it matter?
It's interesting also because there is a power dynamic to it...who comes to who? Should I want the girl to come to me? Or should I want to go to the girl?
Living together is only for beatnik/hippies and those who live in the hills. You need to marry the girl.
I don't have my own place when I met my husband so I live in his place. If I have my own place though. Pretty sure we won't be married now or at least as soon as we did. He is an LTR type of guy. I also would have preferred my place.
And if I have my own place you better believe we are married by the time we shack up together, yo.
Many years ago I moved from my college room to live with my S/O he had a small rent flat
I am living together with my partner for 32 years never married.
In a time where people are getting together later in life, and it's more common that each partner will have a place of their own, it becomes kind of a couple-by-couple decision.
Most men in their 20's places leave a lot to be desired. I am currently dating someone who likes nice things and takes pride in buying nice furniture and making his apartment his own. So, we spend the night at each other's places equally. Normally Sat at mine and Friday at his.
I don't think it really matters. As long as both people are happy with the arrangement - it's all good.
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