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Old 03-01-2013, 11:44 AM
 
Location: Virginia Beach, VA
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Lily I do understand what you are saying. There does not appear to be a long term fix in place unless Maggie and her army husband reconcile. The article doesn't make it clear what the story between them was. Abuse doesn't happen in a vacuum. But I am not going to look at her mistakes and allow them to become an excuse for a guy choking her out and abusing her. I don't hold her blameless, but I do place the majority of the blame on the man who chose to abuse this woman. Everything up to that point is irrelevant to his decision because nothing justifies his choice to abuse her.
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Old 03-01-2013, 11:44 AM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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I'm assuming this guy is the father of the kids, in Alaska? What information do you have to say that it is a bad decision to move closer to the kids' father?
why did they split in the first place? why does she always need a man?
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Old 03-01-2013, 11:46 AM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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Lily I do understand what you are saying. There does not appear to be a long term fix in place unless Maggie and her army husband reconcile. The article doesn't make it clear what the story between them was. Abuse doesn't happen in a vacuum. But I am not going to look at her mistakes and allow them to become an excuse for a guy choking her out and abusing her. I don't hold her blameless, but I do place the majority of the blame on the man who chose to abuse this woman. Everything up to that point is irrelevant to his decision because nothing justifies his choice to abuse her.
Let me make myself very clear: There are absolutely no justification for cheating, abuse, and domestic violence.

However, the real solution for this young lady is her self esteem. She does not need men who are not good for her in her life. period
Not her ex who fathered her children and became nowhere to be found. She does not need ex con
She needs to be a whole person in order to experience true love.

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Old 03-01-2013, 11:47 AM
 
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why did they split in the first place? why does she always need a man?
I don't know.

Can you answer me what you find wrong about having the kids be closer to their father?
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Old 03-01-2013, 11:49 AM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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I don't know.

Can you answer me what you find wrong about having the kids be closer to their father?
She needs to heal her wound, instead of going back to her EX

ex is an ex for a reason. She does not need another tragedy in her life. Period.
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Old 03-01-2013, 11:49 AM
 
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Let me make myself very clear: There are absolutely no justification for cheating, abuse, and domestic violence.

However, the real solution for this young lady is her self esteem. She does not need men who are not good for her in her life. period
Not her ex who fathered her children and became nowhere to be found. She does not need ex con
She needs to be a whole person in order to experience true love.

Do we know the circumstances of how the ex became nowhere to be found.

Regardless of whether she should be with her ex or no, until I hear otherwise, it is good for the children to be closer to their dad.
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Old 03-01-2013, 11:51 AM
 
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She needs to heal her wound, instead of going back to her EX

ex is an ex for a reason. She does not need another tragedy in her life. Period.
What tragedy are you talking about, in regards to the ex?

What about the very obvious needs of the children?
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Old 03-01-2013, 11:52 AM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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What tragedy are you talking about, in regards to the ex?

What about the very obvious needs of the children?
Where is this father when his children were born?

You don't think this lady herself can take care of her children by herself?

There are a lot of single moms doing just that (taking care of their children without the help of abusive men) everyday.
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Old 03-01-2013, 11:54 AM
 
Location: Virginia Beach, VA
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why did they split in the first place? why does she always need a man?
Sounds line there will be a follow up coming soon. Hopefully we will learn more about Maggie's husband.
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Old 03-01-2013, 11:55 AM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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Sounds line there will be a follow up coming soon. Hopefully we will learn more about Maggie's husband.
Yes! I hope he is a good man.
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