Can a hopeless romantic be happy with a partner without a romantic bone in his body? (how to, married)
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I think the only way it would work is if the hopeless romantic manages to somehow not feel constantly rejected, and if they manage to see the other ways the nonromantic shows their regard.
My mother is a romantic-type and she constantly felt rejected by my father. Well, that made sense - he's a full-blown narcissist. Of course he doesn't have a romantic bone in his body (unless it's convenient for him to do so - like when he's actively wooing a woman).
I'm not too much of a romantic, but I'm very attentive to my partners. One of my exes was very into romantic gestures, but there was no substance behind them. He was constantly bothered that I had failed to acknowledge or get excited by a milestone or a romantic moment in our relationship, even though I was in general a very attentive girlfriend.
I will say though that romantic gestures from generally non-romantic people can be very ... moving. I once had a guy who was one of the most contained and emotionally inexpressive people I've ever been on a date with stop his running vehicle in the middle of the street after a date and jump out to give me one last searing kiss, before heading home. Jesus H. Christ, that was hot.
This is my relationship right down to the core. Being romantic isn't my thing but I try to do romantic things that are unnatural to me. Being romantic to me feels cheesy and to be honest a bit exaggerated. You got to bite the bullet sometimes though.
I wouldn't call myself a "hopeless romantic", but I can be and am a romantic if I am with someone I really care about. It would be hard for me to be in a relationship where the guy was not at all romantic and didn't even try to be.
A man with few words does not mean he is not romantic. You need to figure out what do you want in a relationship and what YOU would consider to be romantic.
I've dated a man who would give me red roses everyday for two weeks straight when we first went out, but he did not realize roses are not my flower. I dont consider that romantic at all.
I also dated a man who makes sure I always have a full tank of gas in the car, he is a man with very few words, but his kindness always touches my heart. I consider him to be very romantic.
However, if you are the hopeless romantic, and your partner is not very affectionate, it will be hard to develop deeper bond. Perhaps not a match made in heaven, in my opinion.
This is a really good point. Not a traditional "romantic" thing - but something that shows he cares.
I am a girl who is not very romantic and therefore dont expect romance from a man. However, I can relay romantic notions in the occasional affectionate touch and it ends up being more meaningful for people as I dont do it very often.
It gets really annoying, but if there are other attributes that make up for it, you do what you can.
Some people just express themselves differently. It's important to realize this. Just because they express their love differently does not mean they don't love you.
Don't give up. The effect can be latent and with long lags and often hardly visible, even then, but that doesn't mean it isn't working. Of course, it depends on what you mean by romantic, but most women will react positively to a man who is devoted, loyal, steady in his affection, and who, most of all makes his partner feel loved and safe. Many women have never experienced this before and so it takes time for them to figure out if it's real or just another trick.
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