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I am 44 and date men in their 20s regularly. They are very attractive, respectful, and have never asked me for money. I was just as surprised as anyone when the first one asked me out. What i hear over and over from them is that older women are sexually more open minded, more experienced, more adventurous. They tell me that although young women can be very desirable, they are often very boring in bed. I also suspect most girls in their 20s are in marriage children mode, and i am over that. Young guys also state that older women are more interesting and take care of themselves better then women used to. I have a nice body and im attractive, and im often told so. But i get that many men would never be interested in older women, and thats ok, because im not interested in them either.
Oh, and also, i am not a dominant woman, meaning that i dont treat my guys like crap or boss them around. I only date confident dominant men, and i treat them like men, not children. And they do not treat me like a mother.
Oh, and also, i am not a dominant woman, meaning that i dont treat my guys like crap or boss them around. I only date confident domicnant men, and i treat them like men, not children. And they do not treat me like a mother.
I only like women who are self assured and mature. Try finding that in a 20 yr old
When I was a very young man, I had no luck with the girls my own age. Classic late bloomer.
At some point you figure the way out of the rat maze is go outside the lines.
I found someone who stimulated my mind and we just discovered we had "something" (at the time) and chronological age was irrelevant. Thanks, Stifler's Mom. No it wasn't meant to last, but it was fun while it lasted.
I think Diamond Dave sang it best, even better than Louie Prima:
I'm going way way back. To 1745. Let's talk about Ben Franklin. The guy on the hundred dollah bill. The man had wisdom, power, and capabilities 98% of the human race can't touch.
In addition to authoring the Declaration of Independance, discovering Electricity on the kite string, and inventing bifocals, and all around Polymath, Ben was a ladies man extraordinaire. A Serious PLAYER that would inspire rap lyrics today. He wrote this letter to a younger man:
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Benjamin Franklin, Advice to a Young Man on the Choice of a Mistress
June 25, 1745
My dear Friend,
I know of no Medicine fit to diminish the violent natural Inclinations you mention; and if I did, I think I should not communicate it to you. Marriage is the proper Remedy. It is the most natural State of Man, and therefore the State in which you are most likely to find solid Happiness. Your Reasons against entering into it at present, appear to me not well-founded. The circumstantial Advantages you have in View by postponing it, are not only uncertain, but they are small in comparison with that of the Thing itself, the being married and settled. It is the Man and Woman united that make the compleat human Being. Separate, she wants his Force of Body and Strength of Reason; he, her Softness, Sensibility and acute Discernment. Together they are more likely to succeed in the World. A single Man has not nearly the Value he would have in that State of Union. He is an incomplete Animal. He resembles the odd Half of a Pair of Scissars. If you get a prudent healthy Wife, your Industry in your Profession, with her good Economy, will be a Fortune sufficient.
But if you will not take this Counsel, and persist in thinking a Commerce with the Sex inevitable, then I repeat my former Advice, that in all your Amours you should prefer old Women to young ones. You call this a Paradox, and demand my Reasons. They are these:
1. Because as they have more Knowledge of the World and their Minds are better stor'd with Observations, their Conversation is more improving and more lastingly agreable.
2. Because when Women cease to be handsome, they study to be good. To maintain their Influence over Men, they supply the Diminution of Beauty by an Augmentation of Utility. They learn to do a 1000 Services small and great, and are the most tender and useful of all Friends when you are sick. Thus they continue amiable. And hence there is hardly such a thing to be found as an old Woman who is not a good Woman.
3. Because there is no hazard of Children, which irregularly produc'd may be attended with much Inconvenience.
4. Because thro' more Experience, they are more prudent and discreet in conducting an Intrigue to prevent Suspicion. The Commerce with them is therefore safer with regard to your Reputation. And with regard to theirs, if the Affair should happen to be known, considerate People might be rather inclin'd to excuse an old Woman who would kindly take care of a young Man, form his Manners by her good Counsels, and prevent his ruining his Health and Fortune among mercenary Prostitutes.
5. Because in every Animal that walks upright, the Deficiency of the Fluids that fill the Muscles appears first in the highest Part: The Face first grows lank and wrinkled; then the Neck; then the Breast and Arms; the lower Parts continuing to the last as plump as ever: So that covering all above with a Basket, and regarding2 only what is below the Girdle, it is impossible of two Women to know an old from a young one. And as in the dark all Cats are grey, the Pleasure of corporal Enjoyment with an old Woman is at least equal, and frequently superior, every Knack being by Practice capable of Improvement.
6. Because the Sin is less. The debauching a Virgin may be her Ruin, and make her for Life unhappy.
7. Because the Compunction is less. The having made a young Girl miserable may give you frequent bitter Reflections; none of which can attend the making an old Woman happy.
8thly and Lastly They are so grateful!!
Thus much for my Paradox. But still I advise you to marry directly;
I dated a guy who dated a 30 year old and he was 23. I never understood the appeal. I mean, sure she might be a bit more experienced and carefree but quite frankly, I don't think older women are long term relationship material. It's a bit of an ego boost and an experience thing. Maybe older women are less drama ... that's what this guy thought until she dumped him because she didn't want to leave her husband for him.
I dated a guy who dated a 30 year old and he was 23. I never understood the appeal. I mean, sure she might be a bit more experienced and carefree but quite frankly, I don't think older women are long term relationship material. It's a bit of an ego boost and an experience thing. Maybe older women are less drama ... that's what this guy thought until she dumped him because she didn't want to leave her husband for him.
I'm NO cougar. As a 40-something woman, I have zero interest in 20 - something men and probably little interest in most 30 - something men (though I can certainly appreciate their physical attributes). But men a few years younger than I? You bet.
Perhaps you should speak for yourself, and not for other women, as YOU age, hmm? I wonder if you'll still question the long term relationship material of "older" women when you reach a certain age.
Honestly, it amazes me how some women (especially American women) accept all the negative messages about "older" women.
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