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Ladies: let's say a below average male (basically your perception of ugly) approaches you in an appropriate setting. He doesn't have the huge salary or nice car but he gets by comfortably. He stirs up a conversation and you come to find out he has great social skills, is witty, great sense of humor, etc.
On the flipside, let's say an extremely attractive man (your perception of perfect) approaches you in an appropiate setting. He's got the big bucks, salary, looks. But after speaking you find out he lacks great social skills. He can sustain a conversation and all but doesn't tell many jokes, lacks a sense of humor, and is a bit socially awkward.
Which one do you take?
Men: A below average woman (your perception of ugly) moves in next door. You get on a hi and bye basis and she musters up the courage to ask you on a date. You agree. You come to find out she's a very sweet woman, knows how to have a good time, can tell she holds her own, has a great sense of humor.
On the flipside, an extremely attractive woman (your perception of perfect) moves in next door. You get on a hi and bye basis and she asks you on a date. You agree. While she's smoking hot, she's also kind of quiet, gives short sided replies, lacks a sense of humor, and is a bit awkward.
Which one do you take?
As a man, I'll take the attractive woman. Im not really into anything long term and could probably never shake the looks part.
So are these men walking around with signs on their head with their income, make and model of their car and their amount of retirement savings. Or do they just hand out business cards with this info first.
On the flipside, let's say an extremely attractive man (your perception of perfect) approaches you in an appropiate setting. He's got the big bucks, salary, looks. But after speaking you find out he lacks great social skills. He can sustain a conversation and all but lacks a sense of humor, is a bit socially awkward, and mostly talks about himself.
(Fixed it.) Easy. Door #1.
"Doesn't tell many jokes" is the same as "lacks a sense of humor", btw. Being a little awkward and lacking a sense of humor aren't deal breakers. Being self-centered or not very bright are.
These criteria you're listing as pluses for the guys: nice car, big salary, are not criteria that interest women. Those are male-driven criteria. Most women don't care much about a guy's car or a big salary, but for some reason guys think they do. Guys also think women want a guy with a 6-pack. Learn to discern between male vanity issues, and true female preferences and interests.
My perception of "ugly" are those women who have a rough time moving around because of there weight or because they can't go 5 minutes without taking a puff of a cigarette.
Average girl, who laughs at my jokes, has a sense of humor, who likes me for who I am. That's attractive to me. Not some smoking hot broad who doesn't laugh or can't crack a joke. A sense of humor is probably my #1 for me.
"Doesn't tell many jokes" is the same as "lacks a sense of humor", btw. Being a little awkward and lacking a sense of humor aren't deal breakers. Being self-centered or not very bright are.
Yes thank you for tailoring that scenario to your liking lol. He doesn't talk about himself. Don't want to sound rude but is it too much to ask to stick to scenario in the OP?
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Originally Posted by jade408
So are these men walking around with signs on their head with their income, make and model of their car and their amount of retirement savings. Or do they just hand out business cards with this info first.
I don't know it's a hypothetical situation. I'm sure you're smart, you can figure something out.
I will take the extremely attractive male. You said he is a bit socially awkward, you didn't say he is a bad person.
I like a man of few words.
I must make myself clear on this one, even if the first dude, the ugly one has a lot of money, I still won't choose him. I can NEVER be with somebody whom I find to be UGLY.
These criteria you're listing as pluses for the guys: nice car, big salary, are not criteria that interest women. Those are male-driven criteria. Most women don't care much about a guy's car or a big salary, but for some reason guys think they do. Guys also think women want a guy with a 6-pack. Learn to discern between male vanity issues, and true female preferences and interests.
It's the men that are from Mars. Women are from Venus. lol.
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