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What is your view on this? And how is friend defined? Someone the man has never been intimate with or are ex girlfriends / flings / fwb included in people who can maintain a friendship with your man when you get together with him? And is there a double standard? What about when you are female with a lot of male friends? How does that work?
What is your view on this? And how is friend defined? Someone the man has never been intimate with or are ex girlfriends / flings / fwb included in people who can maintain a friendship with your man when you get together with him? And is there a double standard? What about when you are female with a lot of male friends? How does that work?
People have friends of the opposite sex.
Cannot fathom that people think this is a big deal
I posted on the other thread friend as in a friendship. I am female 53 yrs and I have a male best friend and I am in a LTR of 32 yrs with my S/O also male. Is a bit of a story to this, but as I said pure friendship.
^^^^Me too, I mean I have a guy friend for nearly 25 years. I'm not in relationship but he is gay so no threat when I do enter one. Every situation is different.
Cannot fathom that people think this is a big deal
They do. One of the most common strains in relationships it seems.
I have 2, But I rarely ever see them. One's married and the other in an LTR and their partners never worried about me when I do see them. They don't have to. Never attracted to them and respect their relationship and am glad they are happy. And vice versa.
My close friend is my ex we dated for 6/7years he has a new GF now but he can only talk to me when he's at work which is pretty sad but oh well it's his choice to be controlled. His GF is obviously very insecure.
Most people have friends of the opposite sex. The question is more lkke;
Can you handle your s/o having opposite sex friends?
Or, the better question is;
Why do you have severe trust issues ?
If you don't want a s/o to have opposite sex friends, then on first dates ask them how they feel about having opposite sex friends. If they are pro opposite sex friends, don't continue to date them.
I imagine it will be difficult to have an honest relationship with anyone with a dating requirement like that.
What is your view on this? And how is friend defined? Someone the man has never been intimate with or are ex girlfriends / flings / fwb included in people who can maintain a friendship with your man when you get together with him? And is there a double standard? What about when you are female with a lot of male friends? How does that work?
I replied to your response to me in the other thread. My ex and I had friends of the opposite sex, but no one we hung out with alone or were in daily contact with. This is what I'm dealing with right now, SO's good friend of 20 years an her lack of consideration for our relationship, because she's every dependent on him.
He's been her backup "boyfriend", the guy she would turn to in between relationships, to help her with her computer that wouldn't turn on, to fix her broken DVD player, to be her date to a wedding because she didn't want to go alone. It's not her friendship I don't appreciate, it's her dependence on him. I don't think she's being malicious, I think it's selfishness and thoughtlessness because she doesn't have a BF so, by force of habit, she's turning to SO and he's not "hers" to turn to (for lack of a better phrase). I don't need them to stop being friends but we're getting married, and her 20 years of friendship and dependence has to be cut back. I don't know anyone in a LTR/marriage who has a friend of the opposite sex that keeps in such constant contact or has expectations that their friendship can continue exactly the same as it was before one of them had a SO.
Almost all of my friends are guys. My favorite hobby (Scuba diving) seems to be more popular among men than women. So that's who I am around. Plus, I work with only one other female (everyone else is male). Anyway, those friendships are just that, friendships. I don't know what you mean by "what do I do" about having a lot of male friends. Pretty much what I do (hang out with, etc) is the same stuff I do with my female friends. So it's a confusing question to me.
So you people are down with your SOs opposite sex friends hanging out with them while you are sitting at home alone?
That dog wouldn't hunt with anyone I know.....
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