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Old 03-06-2013, 09:59 PM
 
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Has anyone got be together and remarried an ex? How long were you divorced? How long originally married. Share details.
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Old 03-06-2013, 11:06 PM
 
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Numerous threads about getting back together with an ex. Each and every time it is a bad idea. Do not under any circumstance get back together with an ex. People do not change. There is no sense at all in reconciling with an ex. Civility because of children is one thing.
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Old 03-06-2013, 11:36 PM
 
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I have not. I'd be willing to try though, I was the one who left the marriage. I have heard of couples reuniting 25 years later. No stories to share, though.
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Old 03-06-2013, 11:39 PM
 
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I agree with SD...100%

I was married for 10 years...been divorced for almost 8 years...and there have been times when my ex will start wanting to go down "memory lane" and invite me places even though he has a g/f for 4 years..wow..
I love him in my way but it is very limited...being the father of my son, for the good memories we once had..anything more? NO..

My philosophy? If it did not work once, trust was broken once? Why should I get on that nightmare of ROLLER COASTER AGAIN? I learned my lesson...
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Old 03-06-2013, 11:40 PM
 
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Numerous threads about getting back together with an ex. Each and every time it is a bad idea. Do not under any circumstance get back together with an ex. People do not change. There is no sense at all in reconciling with an ex. Civility because of children is one thing.
Hey, I've posted on a few of those threads and so I can say getting back together with an ex was not a bad idea "each and every time".

No offense, but your bias is really showing here.

Whether you believe it or not, people can and do change.

I've told my family story on another thread, but I'll tell it again for this OP and to bring some balance to the thread...

I had an aunt an uncle who divorced and years later remarried.

Their second marriage was very happy and successful.

They had married young the first time and my uncle was just too selfish and immature to give up his hard partying ways for family life.

By the time they were both nearing 40 he had finally grown up, changed his bad attitudes and gotten his priorities in order. He worked very hard to win her over again and prove himself to her. She gave him a second chance.

They were happily married almost 20 years the second time, until cancer took her from us all way too soon.
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Old 03-07-2013, 12:54 AM
 
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Hey, I've posted on a few of those threads and so I can say getting back together with an ex was not a bad idea "each and every time".

No offense, but your bias is really showing here.

Whether you believe it or not, people can and do change.

I've told my family story on another thread, but I'll tell it again for this OP and to bring some balance to the thread...

I had an aunt an uncle who divorced and years later remarried.

Their second marriage was very happy and successful.

They had married young the first time and my uncle was just too selfish and immature to give up his hard partying ways for family life.

By the time they were both nearing 40 he had finally grown up, changed his bad attitudes and gotten his priorities in order. He worked very hard to win her over again and prove himself to her. She gave him a second chance.

They were happily married almost 20 years the second time, until cancer took her from us all way too soon.
My mother stated that her cousin had divorced her husband for almost beating her to death...they were part for 30 years...
they had other families where he beat his wife till the day she died. ( from natural causes) lol...
they reunited and lived together in their 70's when the **** and vinegar was out of his system and he died 5 years later...
It is neither here nor there...Your story or mine..
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Old 03-07-2013, 12:59 AM
 
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I tried it once many years ago and it just did not work but we were still married legally just separated so I'm not sure if that counts.
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Old 03-07-2013, 01:39 AM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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There is a very good chance that you have outgrown this relationship, you’re just not ready to admit it. Being alone can be scary. Getting back together with an ex is a quick fix for loneliness. Instead of moving forward towards someone who will actually make you happy, you’re relegating yourself to relationship purgatory with a guy who didn’t treat you right the first time around.

It is difficult to let the good memories go. We are in the habit of holding on to the good stuff because we are looking at things with rose colored glasses. After all, he or she might be a very big part of your heart and your life, but maybe it is about time to think what is the best for us, strange concept, maybe we all need to embrace it from time to time.

ex is an ex for a reason.
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Old 03-07-2013, 02:44 AM
 
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OP, I know what you're going through as I am currently contemplating the same but it's just the thinking stage and no really deep desire to revisit the old and over relationship issue. But I do believe that your, mine, and everyone elses situation in this same boat are unique and outsiders/family members will never understand, so take their input with a grain of salt. Ultimately it's your life and if you want to risk it on more heartbreak, or possibly better happiness, it's your life. Others be damned, let them handle their own affairs as they wish. Some divorces end amicably while others end in raw, strained, and emotionally charged feelings. Some people can and do change, others can be forgiving and overlook even infidelity, and others sometimes just discover they weren't meant to be together. Life is short, follow your bliss, take chances because you don't know if you even have tomorrow. Good luck!
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Old 03-07-2013, 03:14 AM
 
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I would wonder why a couple would have divorced for reasons trivial enough that getting back together would be a consideration.
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