People on dating websites: "I stay busy and I don't have time" (how to, man)

[lilyflower3191981]

Originally Posted by ChessieMom

I would NEVER use FB or LinkIn for dating prospects. Ever.

Or this forum.

[lilyflower3191981]

Some people are busy. That doesn't mean they don't need love.

[techcrium]

errr almost EVERYONE is busy. Most people work full time and do things after and that pretty much takes up most of their day. Most of my friends are BUSY all the time but we manage to get together once a week and do stuff together.

I am pretty busy most of the time. Do I feel the need to broadcast to everyone that I am busy? No. Because if I like the person, I will try to make time for them. I will try to invite them to join me playing volleyball or watch movies with friends or whatever.

So why do some people (mostly women) feel the need to express it? Probably insecurity about using dating website.

[lilyflower3191981]

Originally Posted by techcrium

So why do some people (mostly women) feel the need to express it? Probably insecurity about using dating website.

Translation: I have a life. Just because I am using online dating, that does't mean I cannot find dates in real life.

[techcrium]

Originally Posted by lilyflower3191981

Translation: I have a life. Just because I am using online dating, that does't mean I cannot find dates in real life.

Why do women need to tell the world that?

Isn't that already a given?

That's like me putting on my POF profile that I brush my teeth and shower everyday. It is already a given. Do I really need to put that there?

[lilyflower3191981]

Originally Posted by techcrium

Why do women need to tell the world that?

Isn't that already a given?

That's like me putting on my POF profile that I brush my teeth and shower everyday. It is already a given. Do I really need to put that there?

I think this is due to the fact that there is STILL a stigma attached to online daters.

For example, if you are hot, sexy, handsome, beautiful, career minded, family oriented, desirable, a great catch, then why DO YOU have to try online dating?

Actually, I have an interesting story to share.

This is a real life conversation between a man I met online and myself, here goes it



Me 14/4/2013 8:02:34 PM
You sound interesting. Good luck with your search =) Lily

Him 4/5/2013 8:05:01 AM
Hi there, you sound interesting too and pretty cute, I might add...are you interested? If so, tell me your name. My name is Roger.


Me /6/2013 7:59:49 PM
Nice to meet you Roger My name is Lily. =) I must say, You and your sister both have very warm bright smile. It is always a plus. I hope you have a great weekend. I have an art project to finish, sorry for the late response. Responding late does not mean I am not interested in talking to you. hope you understand.

Him 4/8/2013 5:33:58 PM
Hi Lily, what kind of business do you own? You seem pretty normal and totally cute, how come you're not married with kids and a white picket fence?


Me 4/8/2013 6:19:12 PM
My family has retail businesses and I am managing them. I also have my own art studio.

HIM 4/9/2013 8:31:06 AM
So I've gotta ask you, why are you single? You've got to have guys asking you out all the time? You're intelligent, cute...do you want to settle down and have a family? Babies?


ME 4/9/2013 4:47:21 PM
Yes, with the right person. Why am I single? That is a long story.

ME 4/9/2013 5:32:07 PM
I've got time...give me the summary. Don't tell me you are too busy, I don't buy it.


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Needless to say, he is a total turn off to me.

[intelfan11315]

Originally Posted by lilyflower3191981

I think this is due to the fact that there is STILL a stigma attached to online daters.

For example, if you are hot, sexy, handsome, beautiful, career minded, family oriented, desirable, a great catch, then why DO YOU have to try online dating?

Actually, I have an interesting story to share.

This is a real life conversation between a man I met online and myself, here goes it



Me 14/4/2013 8:02:34 PM
You sound interesting. Good luck with your search =) Lily

Him 4/5/2013 8:05:01 AM
Hi there, you sound interesting too and pretty cute, I might add...are you interested? If so, tell me your name. My name is Roger.


Me /6/2013 7:59:49 PM
Nice to meet you Roger My name is Lily. =) I must say, You and your sister both have very warm bright smile. It is always a plus. I hope you have a great weekend. I have an art project to finish, sorry for the late response. Responding late does not mean I am not interested in talking to you. hope you understand.

Him 4/8/2013 5:33:58 PM
Hi Lily, what kind of business do you own? You seem pretty normal and totally cute, how come you're not married with kids and a white picket fence?


Me 4/8/2013 6:19:12 PM
My family has retail businesses and I am managing them. I also have my own art studio.

HIM 4/9/2013 8:31:06 AM
So I've gotta ask you, why are you single? You've got to have guys asking you out all the time? You're intelligent, cute...do you want to settle down and have a family? Babies?


ME 4/9/2013 4:47:21 PM
Yes, with the right person. Why am I single? That is a long story.

ME 4/9/2013 5:32:07 PM
I've got time...give me the summary. Don't tell me you are too busy, I don't buy it.


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Needless to say, he is a total turn off to me.

Reading what this guy says makes me feel like a complete ladies man, what was so awkward hahah

[weezerfan84]

Originally Posted by lilyflower3191981

I think this is due to the fact that there is STILL a stigma attached to online daters.

For example, if you are hot, sexy, handsome, beautiful, career minded, family oriented, desirable, a great catch, then why DO YOU have to try online dating?

Actually, I have an interesting story to share.

This is a real life conversation between a man I met online and myself, here goes it



Me 14/4/2013 8:02:34 PM
You sound interesting. Good luck with your search =) Lily

Him 4/5/2013 8:05:01 AM
Hi there, you sound interesting too and pretty cute, I might add...are you interested? If so, tell me your name. My name is Roger.


Me /6/2013 7:59:49 PM
Nice to meet you Roger My name is Lily. =) I must say, You and your sister both have very warm bright smile. It is always a plus. I hope you have a great weekend. I have an art project to finish, sorry for the late response. Responding late does not mean I am not interested in talking to you. hope you understand.

Him 4/8/2013 5:33:58 PM
Hi Lily, what kind of business do you own? You seem pretty normal and totally cute, how come you're not married with kids and a white picket fence?


Me 4/8/2013 6:19:12 PM
My family has retail businesses and I am managing them. I also have my own art studio.

HIM 4/9/2013 8:31:06 AM
So I've gotta ask you, why are you single? You've got to have guys asking you out all the time? You're intelligent, cute...do you want to settle down and have a family? Babies?


ME 4/9/2013 4:47:21 PM
Yes, with the right person. Why am I single? That is a long story.

ME 4/9/2013 5:32:07 PM
I've got time...give me the summary. Don't tell me you are too busy, I don't buy it.


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Needless to say, he is a total turn off to me.

You don't want to talk someone and feel like you're a grilled cheese sandwich. A lot of guys and gals do this, due to not having much dating experience. I used to be a little like that back when I was wet behind the ears with dating. May be an alright guy, but his approach is very off putting. He'll need a woman who can see past is off approach and tell him that he's making her uncomfortable. Someone just has to feel that he's worth taking a chance on.

[lilyflower3191981]

Originally Posted by burgler09

Reading what this guy says makes me feel like a complete ladies man, what was so awkward hahah

LOL I know huh?

[IonRedline08]

Same as I can go out or stay in...meaningless drivel .