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Old 03-12-2013, 09:19 AM
 
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Two jobs, 15 hours each still equates to 30 hours per week, which is still less than one full-time job. They never say how many hours these multiple jobs are sucking from their lives, often less than the 70 hour weeks I was working. My cousin pulls this card all the time, "I have 4 jobs, yadda, yadda." Makes me eyeroll in my head.
Europeans make fun of Americans because everybody knows in Europe that Americans are overworked, and that Americans wear the overworked badge on their shoulder with pride.

The live to work culture here in America is ridiculous. People work all year only to get 7/14 days paid vacation. Time away for maternity leave is also a joke.....



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Old 03-12-2013, 09:37 AM
 
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People really don't have leisure time these days. People are working sometimes 2 jobs, in addition to going to school. If they have children, then that's even more time taken away.....

Something that I've noticed online the last couple of weeks, is there has been an abundance of women with no car, yet barking off all these things the guy must do. I think there's just as many boneheaded guys online, but what is the deal with all the demands. I've seen profiles of women with no car, stay at home mom, and have 2 or 3 kids, yet they are looking for an all around great guy. You can't come to the table with nothing and expect to get everything. Makes you think everyone feels they deserve the world, yet putting nothing in of effort to obtain it.

Do women get the idea that since they have a vagina, they can get more than they deserve? If I was unemployed, living with my parents, and had a couple of kids, I wouldn't be expecting to get the attractive, career driven woman. I would be the water seeking my same level.

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Old 03-12-2013, 09:55 AM
 
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Something that I've noticed online the last couple of weeks, is their has been an abundance of women with no car, yet barking off all these things the guy must do. I think there's just as many boneheaded guys online, but what is the deal with all the demands. I've seen profiles of women with no car, stay at home mom, and have 2 or 3 kids, yet they are looking for an all around great guy. You can't come to the table with nothing and expect to get everything. Makes you think everyone feels they deserve the world, yet putting nothing in of effort to obtain it.

Do women get the idea that since they have a vagina, they can get more than they deserve? If I was unemployed, living with my parents, and had a couple of kids, I wouldn't be expecting to get the attractive, career driven woman. I would be the water seeking my same level.
Truth be told, a lot of these women are now in the position where they're paying the piper. When they were younger, they chose to be with the men who were irresponsible, reckless, and abusive. Their only hope now is to post desperate adverts online to try and find a good guy.
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Old 03-12-2013, 09:59 AM
 
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Truth be told, a lot of these women are now in the position where they're paying the piper. When they were younger, they chose to be with the men who were irresponsible, reckless, and abusive. Their only hope now is to post desperate adverts online to try and find a good guy.
That likely won't happen. If they guy has any sense, he wouldn't be interested in pursuing a relationship nightmare.
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Old 03-12-2013, 11:30 AM
 
Location: NYC
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I don't understand how super busy people expect to actually bond with a person if they only see them every few weeks and only on "free" days. Inviting you to experience parts of my life is just as important as me experiencing parts of yours, but there is no give and take like this when you date the super busy.
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Old 03-12-2013, 11:52 AM
 
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I don't understand how super busy people expect to actually bond with a person if they only see them every few weeks and only on "free" days. Inviting you to experience parts of my life is just as important as me experiencing parts of yours, but there is no give and take like this when you date the super busy.
Every few weeks would be ridiculous, I agree. Not much there to base a relationship on. That said, I suppose that people in a LDR must do this, and many seem to make it work.
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Old 03-12-2013, 12:38 PM
 
Location: Canada
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I guess I look at it differently, because in most cases, people really are busy especially during the week. Jobs, kids, other functions, take up a lot of a persons time. I think in most cases they are just letting people know up front, that I have a lot going on, and just be patient. If there is a connection, schedules will be worked out and time will be made. I think many of you are looking too hard at this.
My first impression is that some people are needy and expect to start off texting incessantly and get upset when they don't get immediate responses. Maybe this is a way of telling others you're not just sitting with your phone in your hand, available to be reply the second a text or email comes in?

I find many people very impatient these days and easily write off others for not replying fast enough or often enough.
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Old 03-12-2013, 12:43 PM
 
Location: Hartford CT
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My first impression is that some people are needy and expect to start off texting incessantly and get upset when they don't get immediate responses. Maybe this is a way of telling others you're not just sitting with your phone in your hand, available to be reply the second a text or email comes in?

I find many people very impatient these days and easily write off others for not replying fast enough or often enough.

That is a good point as well. I think we have all come across people who jump all over you, for not responding back ASAP, not realizing that you may be in a meeting, your car, or heck, taking a nap. They take it really personal, if they don't get a response in a so called timely manner.
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Old 03-12-2013, 12:45 PM
 
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My first impression is that some people are needy and expect to start off texting incessantly and get upset when they don't get immediate responses. Maybe this is a way of telling others you're not just sitting with your phone in your hand, available to be reply the second a text or email comes in?

I find many people very impatient these days and easily write off others for not replying fast enough or often enough.
This is true as well. Lets not forget that we are in the technology age. Most people can respond to a text rather quickly, and if you can't respond quickly, than say so when you can. If I'm busy, I tell anyone that I'm in the middle of something and I'm not ignoring you. I want to be treated the way that I treat other people. There's nothing wrong with telling someone that you are busy with something and you will get back with them when you're done. It takes less time than what people want to allocate to it.

Some people just want to play the options game and not spare anyone's feelings. Like we have said here, when you have options, why settle down with any one person. If you have 5 people taking up 100% of your free time, why would you invest in 1 person taking up 20% of your time. If I found the right person, I would have no issues being in a 100% committed relationship. As of now, I'm having to juggle a few women, since I haven't found one that gives me what I want fully and vice versa.

Most people want what they feel they deserve, so the low hanging fruit wants the best available specimen. Nothing wrong with that, but with that mindset, comes disappointment.
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Old 03-12-2013, 03:50 PM
 
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I have seen this too many times on profiles.

If you're that busy, why are you "looking" for a relationship?


Is "being busy" some sort of a status symbol?
I built a repor with a woman who was 'busy'.
She played volleyball 3 times a week, had a full time job, and a social life.
I spent a bit of time on the phone talking talking talking. I suggested we should go out on at least 2 seperate phone convo's. She declined, or basically said she was busy.

A few weeks go by, and I met up with a local friend who had a lot of success dating online.
We talked and realized we were both chatting with the same woman.
For fun (and motivation), I bet my friend that he couldn't get a date with her, as she was 'too busy'.
Not only did he take her out, but they got a little frisky. He actually told her about the bet with me, as she acknowledged talking with me. After they were frisky, she smiled and said "Enjoy your shot!" They both laughed.
He never did make me pay up, as he figured the fun was worth it, and in the end, more than anything, I LOST.
Turns out, she wasn't too interested in me, and was kind of wasting my time.
So basically, she had no problem talking on the phone with me for extended amounts of time, but she was too busy for coffee or something with me. But, with the right person, all bets were off.

This online dating is tricky.
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