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OP, please do not take it as a personal attack. I am sure your son is a great human being. But women generally don't care for a man who runs to his mom or dad for his marital problems. =(
But this does sound more than just that, don't you think?
It sounds like our OP's son might be having some kind of crisis actually.
If this were my kid, I'd be concerned and encouraging him to see a doctor.
But this does sound more than just that, don't you think?
It sounds like our OP's son might be having some kind of crisis actually.
If this were my kid, I'd be concerned and encouraging him to see a doctor.
If my husband runs to his family and calls me illogical and stupid behind my back, I will lose respect towards him. Marriage involves two people, a husband and a wife, it has absolutely nothing to do with either party's parents or family members. I agree with other poster who said, op should stay out of it.
the understanding problem is not hers it is his. see the lawyer before the marriage not after. she does not have to appreciate his logic, she has already picked her lawyer.
What could possibly be so important that it would bring a grown man to tears, AFTER prayer and meditation? Are they disagreeing on whether to have children? On whether she should work or not? What's the $50,000 question?
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On what issue...whether or not to have chilren?...what religion should they practice?...or the next American Idol? It depends if it's a deal breaker issue or just a difference of opinion...!
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Until the OP comes back and tells us what the issue is, everything is merely conjecture on our part.
Aye, all around. Not sure what could be so earth-shatteringly important that wouldn't imply the son was either in denial or not paying attention in the first place when he married her, but as I'm well aware that sometimes people can and do pull a bait-and-switch, I'll refrain from categorizing him that way. My own ex thought he could convince me to have kids once we were married, even though I told him on our second or third date that I didn't want them and he swore up and down and left and right for the three years before we were married that he didn't want them either.
Still, the time to call the family with your perjoratives about your spouse is after you and your spouse call it quits. Asking fatherly advice man to man is one thing. Crying about how dumb you think your wife is is something else entirely.
This is the problem with marriage. People A. dont take the time to discuss their differences/communicate before the "I do" and B. dont consider that people change.
We can only assume here. Idk what the backstory is but something is very wrong in that relationship have him crying about the extent of his wife illogical ways. Very wrong and like you said idk how that wasn't noted before the marriage took place and even before engagement because its not difficult to notice someone's typical line of thought or pattern of thinking in my opinion. Did he not have discussions with his wife before marriage? So something is really wrong. Really really really wrong. Like BIG red flag wrong.
If my husband runs to his family and calls me illogical and stupid behind my back, I will lose respect towards him. Marriage involves two people, a husband and a wife, it has absolutely nothing to do with either party's parents or family members. I agree with other poster who said, op should stay out of it.
Completely agree with you, and said in my first post on the thread that this marriage is heading for divorce with attitudes like the husband has because once a person has lost respect for their partner the marriage is doomed.
But then the OP added the part about his son basically crying and praying and meditating "for hours" and about how "rare" this is, and it just leads me to believe there is some kind of crisis going on here. I can understand the OP's concern for his son and hope he'll encourage him to talk to a professional.
Completely agree with you, and said in my first post on the thread that this marriage is heading for divorce with attitudes like the husband has because once a person has lost respect for their partner the marriage is doomed.
But then the OP added the part about his son basically crying and praying and meditating "for hours" and about how "rare" this is, and it just leads me to believe there is some kind of crisis going on here. I can understand the OP's concern for his son and hope he'll encourage him to talk to a professional.
True.
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It depends if it's a deal breaker issue or just a difference of opinion...
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