Quote:
Originally Posted by flathead4
For the past decade or so I just figured if things worked out they would work out. I served for five years. Got a degree. All the while, just enjoying life. I now work a job making good money, but am unfortunately am on the road most weeks from Monday thru Friday. I take care of myself, and dress decently (although I'm no fashion whiz).
I've never found it easy to make friends even in pastime related get-togethers. I participate mostly in activities that don't really involve the fairer sex. There are relatively few Meetup groups in my area and I feel as if joining one at this point would be under false pretenses. Talking to women is a whole other matter. The miniscule number of times I'm actually around women I'm interested in, nothings happens. Everytime I see a woman I'm attracted to, I tend to think any approach would be unwelcome. Even if I could muster up something. I pretty much don't know any women or have any friends who know any.
I don't know why but this seems to have begun building up just before last Christmas. Spending Christmas and New Years alone brought me down pretty far. I've had a couple of days this last Jan/Feb where I just about gave up. Permanently. I don't really have anyone I can confide in with personal issues. I don't feel comfortable talking with family, and I didn't seem to get far with my best friend. I've put off making this first post for at least a couple of weeks trying to think how I'd word it. But what the hell.
|
Flathead, it seems to me that you are being your own worst enemy
You are so afraid of rejection that you shoot yourself down before any woman can even reject you! I mean really, "every time I see a woman I'm attracted to, I tend to think any approach would be unwelcome"
Yes, some women might actually reject you. That stings and it does suck. But that's life!
They won't ALL reject you, don't you see?
When it comes to finding a companion you really have to remember that you increase your chances and odds of finding that special person when you simply just increase your interactions with them.
Look how passive you are! No offense my friend, but this approach is just not going to get you anywhere!
You have lived for far too long as a spectator to your own life rather than a real participant.
It would be one thing if you really didn't care about being alone and didn't want a partner of some kind.
But you clearly do! You are dying of loneliness
And no one can fix that for you but
you.
You simply have to be willing to get out of your comfort zone and do some things differently.
Are you ready to do that?