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Lots of good stuff in this thread. The more compatible you are overall, the fewer things there are to create disagreements. It takes time to know you're compatible, so don't rush into marriage - a couple of years is probably enough before deciding. I also find that we truly care about each other's happiness, well-being, personal growth, and freedom to make their own choices.
Lots of good stuff in this thread. The more compatible you are overall, the fewer things there are to create disagreements. It takes time to know you're compatible, so don't rush into marriage - a couple of years is probably enough before deciding. I also find that we truly care about each other's happiness, well-being, personal-growth, and freedom to make their own choices.
I already have a bed. You can't play pool on a bed.
I don't think I could narrow it down to one thing.
Like many others have said - communication is so important. Communication about everything - from feeling neglected to money to pet peeves to anything under the sun. If you can't talk to this person about everything - I'm not sure you have a chance.
Humor - it's part of the glue that keeps us together. If I couldn't laugh with him about every little thing - life would be boring indeed!
Respect - even when we have different views about something - we still respect each other.
Trust, love, common lifestyle, etc.
It all comes down to picking the right person and knowing that you will do whatever is in your power to make things work.
From all the older folks I know who have been happily married 20-plus years, the number one foundation is respect. The husband and wife have a sincere reverence for each other. If that is not there, I think you can have all the other things in the poll, but it will be like the foolish man who built the house upon the sand, it will not stand up when the waves of life come in hard.
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Originally Posted by AverageGuy2006
You didn't put communication of the list.
Is that assumed in every relationship? Some people communicate MUCH better than others.
For me, these things (and many others already mentioned) are included in the "working on the marriage" category. Respect is just a given for me...in every part of my life. It's the number one thing I drilled into my son's head (and his friends as well!!).
I've said it here before: A marriage is like a flower garden. If you are willing to get out there every day and weed it, fertilize, prune, and plant new seeds, then you'll be rewarded with a beautiful garden, year after year. If not, soon that garden will just be a bed of unsightly weeds and dead flowers that will provide enjoyment for no one.
If you want a successful marriage, you have to work at it, every day.
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