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if you want to be equal to men, everything must be equal. I think men need to stop paying for sex, which is contributing to most of the problem. we need to look at women like peers, and not sex objects. you get women who want to be equal to men, but yet won't pay for their own food. I have women who asked me out and won't pay. can someone please make me understand what the hell's going on?
and I have a feeling this is going to get worse when I move back to Chicago. I've been offered a better job and pay so its gonna get worse.
A certain member here, who shall remain nameless, likes to browbeat the women here with his claim that in Asia, it's the women who wine and dine the men, as often as the other way around. They buy gifts for their dates, it's dating paradise for guys, he says. But something tells me that the women he dates aren't from traditional families, or if they are, choose to do things their own way.
And I think that person could be me. Japan can be quite traditional when it comes to gender roles, I just chose not to follow them completely. A woman can be expected to cook for her man as her lady duty just like a man is expected to take care of all expenses as a man duty (don’t like things to be labeled per gender but you get the idea). Still, I don’t care if I am a guest or not, if she’s cooking for me I will be setting the table and helping cut the vegetables or whatever. After we’re done, you’ll see me washing the dishes, picking up, and so on. Want to point out that I wouldn’t be arriving empty handed. It works fine between us as they enjoy to be treated in ways they are not used to and I enjoy being treated in ways I am not used to when I am in the west so we both end up happy.
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
The problem isn't that the guys don't know how. The problem is that many, if not most, fall back on traditional gender roles after marriage, and expect the wife to do most of that stuff. Surely you knew that....
It works both ways. You have all these women enjoying the tradition of having a man wine and dine her because “that is tradition and it should be followed” but when it comes to house chores all of a sudden “traditions are sexist”. Like I have said before, I rather have both of us involved in all aspects of the relationship from the start.
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