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I think the defining moment for me was trying to lay on the couch with her and cuddle, while laying completely on my shoulder/side, squeezed into the couch, and more-so holding on to her vs cuddling. I remember having difficulty breathing as I was literally being squished.
I felt horrible because she was nice otherwise, but I love cuddling and it just wasn't possible..
Yeah, if you can't cuddle with someone and breathe at the same time, that's kind of a problem.
I've been there and it's an absolutely horrible feeling being told by your partner that they were never attracted to you and that they were 'settling' for the time being until something better came along. Hell, it happened to me over 3 years ago and I still get twinges of self doubt and periods where I feel like I'll never be good enough. Mostly I'm pretty awesome, but these things effect people long term and I wish people would take the time to actually THINK about the long term effects the things they do or say can have on others.
Yeah, some things are better left unsaid. People that don't have a clue say sheet like that. Some claim their just being honest and some of them do it to inflate themselves. All **** poor reasons to put someone else down. Golden Rule rules in every situation!
Yeah, some things are better left unsaid. People that don't have a clue say sheet like that. Some claim their just being honest and some of them do it to inflate themselves. All **** poor reasons to put someone else down. Golden Rule rules in every situation!
Hey bro, I'm going through this right now. I'm currently seeing a woman who I'm not attracted too, however she is attracted to me and she wants to go the exclusive route. She is very insecure about her height and also about her weight. She is short and weights somewhere between 240 and 250 pounds. Dont get me wrong I'm a big guy too but I know how to carry myself, plus I do work out on the regular plus I'm tall. I also have dated big women too but now as big as her, if they are big the women either was top heavy, bottom heavy or tall which helps carry the weight, so therefore I'm not a shallow guy besides I'm not perfect either. She is also very emotional and I do have to watch what I say to her. Do you guys think I shouold just take what I get and try to help her with her weight and insecurities or is she to much to work with? She is a Latina and we do have common interest and so forth.
If your not into her then don't take it any further. You're not doing her or yourself any favors by settling. She isn't self confident and she's emotional. most people when they become happy and settle into a relationship they tend to gain a little weight so don't count on her losing just because you are with her. She needs to work on herself before she needs to get into any type of relationship . Good luck and I hope you do what is right for you.
Here's my issue about the use of the word "fat." I am a man of a larger carriage; I could certainly stand to lose a few pounds. However I've been told by women that I am attractive, and that I wear my weight like a big teddy bear. In my head, when I hear the word "fat", Jabba the Hut comes to mind.
I dated a skinny girl in college once, and she hurt me real bad. Things were going real good between us, then out of nowhere she decided she couldn't be with me because I was overweight, had a big head, wore flip flops, and a litany of reasons I've long forgotten. So yes, I've dated women with some "extra to love", so to speak.
For me, attraction isn't always about body type. I just look at someone, and if I find something striking about them (pretty eyes, cute smile, wearing a clothing item supporting one of my favorite sports teams), then I'm going to talk to them.
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