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Old 12-24-2016, 05:50 PM
 
Location: The Jerz (NJ)
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Why would an attractive guy choose to have sex with only one woman for the rest of his life? It's tough to do that when you are given a lot of female attention. By the same token I would never expect a very attractive girl in her 20s, or a very attractive older woman to be faithful. Most of these people get showered with great alternatives when some things go bad with their partner, and so for the most part they won't settle without profusely cheating.
this is a really sad post....
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Old 12-24-2016, 08:21 PM
 
Location: Earth
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But there's a difference in being a "player" and just a guy that doesn't look for commitment,
I cough heck for this on a message board. It was simple discussion on a show. I referred to 2 of the characters as players. And around 4 / 5 people are all telling me a player is simply just a guy who sleeps around.

A man who isn't monogamous, I wouldn't automatically label a player. But I see now the definition is controversial it seems.

Player = Man who sleeps around / is successful with getting different women> A Hit with Ladies
Player = Man who plays / lies to women -tells them what they wanna hear to get laid. Then dumps them when he's finished, or tired of them.

I have seen both used.

Usually when I hear guys talk about it, they mean the first one, and it's usually a compliment. Though some say "Playa" is the term for that. Not "Player"

Now as a woman, and when I hear other women talk about it, they are referring to the latter, and it's not a term of endearment

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Old 12-24-2016, 08:31 PM
 
Location: 🇬🇧 In jolly old London! 🇬🇧
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I cough heck for this on a message board. It was simple discussion on a show. I referred to 2 of the characters as players. And around 4 / 5 people are all telling me a player is simply just a guy who sleeps around.

A man who isn't monogamous, I wouldn't automatically label a player. But I see now the definition is controversial it seems.

Player = Man who sleeps around / is successful with getting different women> A Hit with Ladies
Player = Man who plays / lies to women -tells them what they wanna hear to get laid.

I have seen both used. Usually when I hear guys say it, they mean the first one, and it's usually a compliment.
Now as a woman, and when I hear other women talk about it, they are referring to the latter, and it's an insult
We don't usually use the term player here thankfully but I'd take it as the second one from both genders which ever told me.

The closest we have to being called a player is a womaniser I've been called that more than once ( and believe it or not it was meant as a compliment! ) and wasn't best pleased.

Stud is not too bad as it's not really said with any negatives attached
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Old 12-25-2016, 03:31 PM
 
Location: Empire State of Philly
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Timing.

In my early twenties, I dated a few 'players'. None of them wanted a girlfriend and were just playing the field. I was often told by them I was girlfriend-material and was what they were looking for in a woman. Yet, they didn't want to have a proper relationship with me or anyone for that matter.

Then, after they turned 26, I noticed all of them slowly morphing into these monogamous men. No woman could have changed them. Timing is a significant factor. If you're an amazing woman, but the timing is wrong, they still won't want you. The epiphany has to come from within, a conscious choice.

Oddly enough, they all settled for woman they swore they'd never go for. Oh well.
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Old 12-27-2016, 02:17 AM
 
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OP, instead of wondering how you could get a player to 'settle down', why don't you think about how you can get an actual decent man to see you as a possible mate?
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Old 12-27-2016, 02:38 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Stay away from players they have stds.
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Old 12-27-2016, 04:28 PM
 
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Timing.

In my early twenties, I dated a few 'players'. None of them wanted a girlfriend and were just playing the field. I was often told by them I was girlfriend-material and was what they were looking for in a woman. Yet, they didn't want to have a proper relationship with me or anyone for that matter.

Then, after they turned 26, I noticed all of them slowly morphing into these monogamous men. No woman could have changed them. Timing is a significant factor. If you're an amazing woman, but the timing is wrong, they still won't want you. The epiphany has to come from within, a conscious choice.

Oddly enough, they all settled for woman they swore they'd never go for. Oh well.
Well maybe they found out the bj she gives is a solid 10/10 that changes a lot of minds. The only problem is when they stop after wedding day that's my biggest marriage fear and I think it's a legit one man.
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Old 12-28-2016, 07:57 PM
 
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Well maybe they found out the bj she gives is a solid 10/10 that changes a lot of minds. The only problem is when they stop after wedding day that's my biggest marriage fear and I think it's a legit one man.
theres that running joke about why a woman smiles big time on her wedding day...its because she knows she has given her last bj...lol
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Old 12-28-2016, 08:46 PM
 
Location: Pa
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theres that running joke about why a woman smiles big time on her wedding day...its because she knows she has given her last bj...lol
Lol! Damn straight!
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Old 12-28-2016, 08:56 PM
 
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Only Jesus can save a player. Nothing else is strong enough. You've got to believe there will be consequences even if you don't get caught.
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