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Old 03-14-2013, 08:08 AM
 
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So basically what you are saying is it's ok for men to reveal their personal info but a woman shouldn't have to??
I understand why some men might be reluctant to reveal theirs as well and as I said, I don't pressure them to give me the information.
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Old 03-14-2013, 08:17 AM
 
Location: Camberville
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I get a last name before I meet someone for the first time. I *have* had some scary first date experiences, as well as other experiences meeting people online (ie. roommates from Craigslist) that necessitate me needing to do a little research to feel safe going on a date. I live in a city and 9 times out of 10, I'm taking public transit to the first date. I've had a person follow me home after I declined going to dinner with him. Had I had his full name before we met in person, I would have been able to find his blog where he had some very anti-woman posts and probably would never have gone on a first date in the first place.

I'm an open book - I like it when I see that a potential date has looked at my LinkedIn profile and a search of my name brings up my blog and some of my activism work. It's just protecting yourself and also creating a bit of a digital trail for if something bad does happen. I always send an email to myself with my date's full name and phone number, where we're going, and when I expect myself back. Paranoid? Sure. But if something happens, there's a trail.
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Old 03-14-2013, 08:18 AM
 
Location: Pa
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Yes I do. No one wants to date a Rich ****. My lastname would be that. Or last name Phat. Or a Mr. Duma$$.
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Old 03-14-2013, 08:20 AM
 
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No woman has ever asked me for my last name before a date. IF she did I would probably laugh at her. Google something else, psycho freak.
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Old 03-14-2013, 08:36 AM
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Location: Tall Building down by the river
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No woman has ever asked me for my last name before a date. IF she did I would probably laugh at her. Google something else, psycho freak.

Is it a magazine article somewhere that told women to start doing background checks? LOL
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Old 03-14-2013, 08:41 AM
 
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Is it a magazine article somewhere that told women to start doing background checks? LOL
Proabably Cosmo or some other source of enlightment. I give my GF **** about reading thrashy magazines, because they do nothing but fill your head with garbage like this. (Mod cut: Gender bashing)

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Old 03-14-2013, 08:47 AM
 
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i never gave out any info other than my first name. you never know who's on the other end and what there trying to use your info for.
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Old 03-14-2013, 08:48 AM
 
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Proabably Cosmo or some other source of enlightment. I give my GF **** about reading thrashy magazines, because they do nothing but fill your head with garbage like this. I told her to pick up a national geographic for a change, becasue intellectual curiousity is a wonderful thing but soemwhat rare for one of the genders to display at times.
You can't escape it in Nat Geo either... Just this month there is an article about Fracking and the writer interviewed a woman truck driver that got so many sexual threats that she carries around a metal pipe to scare off men.

As a woman, I can say it's a bit of fear that drives women to do this kind of thing. The vast majority of men out there are good, decent guys. But all it takes is that one weirdo to put you on edge. Someday, if you guys ever have daughters that get "stalked" or "groped" or whatever, then you will understand.

For the record, I don't do background checks. It's a waste of money and can be wrong to boot. I like to go by body language and mannerisms. I ferreted out the man who lied to me (told me he was single when he was really married) when he contradicted himself. You just need to listen and watch. That's why I like meeting right away if the man is willing.

EDIT: I should note... men do it too. Had one guy ask me about my blog that I let die years ago (so he must have googled me). Didn't bother me, who cares.
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Old 03-14-2013, 08:51 AM
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You can't escape it in Nat Geo either... Just this month there is an article about Fracking and the writer interviewed a woman truck driver that got so many sexual threats that she carries around a metal pipe to scare off men.

As a woman, I can say it's a bit of fear that drives women to do this kind of thing. The vast majority of men out there are good, decent guys. But all it takes is that one weirdo to put you on edge. Someday, if you guys ever have daughters that get "stalked" or "groped" or whatever, then you will understand.

For the record, I don't do background checks. It's a waste of money and can be wrong to boot. I like to go by body language and mannerisms. I ferreted out the man who lied to me (told me he was single when he was really married) when he contradicted himself. You just need to listen and watch. That's why I like meeting right away if the man is willing.

But sometimes your schedule doesn't allow you to meet right away
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Old 03-14-2013, 08:56 AM
 
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But sometimes your schedule doesn't allow you to meet right away
I am a single (divorced) mom who works full time and does volunteer work. If I can find an hour of time to just meet and talk to someone, I think most people can meet within a week (or sooner). You don't need a full blown date just to meet someone. If a person is that busy that they can't find an hour sometimes in a week, I have to ask when do they think they are going to date?
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