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Old 03-15-2013, 07:07 PM
 
Location: Eastern Washington
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Proceed with caution. The last thing you want this early in your career is the reputation of a guy who hits on co-workers. Start really slowly and let her call the shots.
Indeed. Proceed with great caution, try to get some indirect way of finding out if she's single and is actually interested in you. Have one of your friends ask one of her friends. Ask first only if she's involved with anyone, and if not is open to a relationship.

Set things up so that if she's likely to reject, she never knows you even had an interest.

Think like Sun Tsu - Know yourself and know her completely before you make the first move, Grasshopper.

Be intellectually open to finding out something about her that is totally unacceptable to you - maybe you are child free, but she has baby rabies, for example - again find this out from a distance.

Your approach, if any, will be "ahead, dead slow" but you will be ready to go to "back emergency, cavitate!" if she even looks at you funny.

If all this seems like too much trouble, don't date co-workers, which is the simple, safe answer.
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Old 03-16-2013, 02:30 AM
 
Location: Chicago area
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There are two married couples that met on the job where my husband works. They just work opposite shifts. What's the big deal? If it doesn't work out with your coworker then be adult about it. If it does work out and she turns out to be the love of your life then it's worth it. I say go for it but take it slow.
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Old 03-16-2013, 04:46 PM
 
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sounds like a date to me
Two co-workers grabbing lunch at that new sandwich shop across the street doesn't constitute a date if framed correctly.
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Old 03-16-2013, 05:29 PM
 
Location: Albuquerque, NM
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Don't poop where you eat.
Is the sex with a co-worker pooping or is the working pooping? I can never figure this out.
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Old 03-16-2013, 05:30 PM
 
Location: Albuquerque, NM
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sounds like a date to me
Oh man.

I'm apparently bisexual.
I've had lunch with male coworkers
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Old 03-25-2013, 02:45 PM
 
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Don't dip your pen in company ink!

Always a NO-NO unless the rules are clearly defined and the emotional involvement 100 percent completely removed.

Don't SCREW the CREW! It rarely works out and when all things go bad, someone has to leave the department.
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Old 03-25-2013, 03:14 PM
 
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I personally do not mix work and romance with all of the workplace rules the last 20+ years. If this is a place you want to stay at for quite awhile, I would not ask her out. If you consider it a temporary workplace before moving on, do so but do NOT pressure her at all if you are initially rejected. I am for women's equality, but the workplace rules for romantic relationships with the opposite sex significantly favor women. Most women would agree with me, too.

Unless she is giving you a strong green light the entire time, I would avoid it. I am not trying to discourage you. Back in the 1980's, I would say "go for it". That was an entirely different situation. I asked a couple women out from work back then. Today...no way!
^^^^^^^This^^^^^^^
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