Why People Don't Date Women/Men With Kids. (cheated, sex, divorce)

[FBJ]

Originally Posted by DivineComedy

I'm a single man
I don't believe that you and I have enough in common for you to speak for me.

I will date whomever I want and your feelings on the matter have no bearing.

A single man who doesn't like kids should only be dating

1. Woman with adult children

2. Woman with no kids


I had to make a correction

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by The Dissenter

Know anyone under 28 with grown children?

lol!
Maybe what Philly was saying is that 20-something guys should date 35-40-year old women, who's kids are already grown, or almost grown. Maybe he's a cougar-chaser.

lol!

[FBJ]

Originally Posted by The Dissenter

Know anyone under 28 with grown children?

My options were to date a woman with

No Kids
Adult Kids

[FBJ]

Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth

lol!
Maybe what Philly was saying is that 20-something guys should date 35-40-year old women, who's kids are already grown, or almost grown. Maybe he's a cougar-chaser.

lol!

THANK YOU

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

I agree, that's the way it should be... the reality is that all things being equal, the single mother is more likely at a disadvantage.... we can be PC on the forum, but in reality, people often say one thing and do another....

In reality, people marry all kinds of people, including single moms. On forums, "reality" gets twisted and misrepresented. "Women don't like sex". (Oh yeah? Then how do they produce all those babies? ) "Why do all the single women in their 30's have kids?" "Young women only like bad boys."

blah blah blah.

Single moms may be somewhat at a disadvantage, but so are who, for whatever reason, tend to gravitate toward women with out-of-control kids, women with multiple fathers to their kids, women who cheat, women who are only into partying, etc. For some reason, that type of disadvantage never gets discussed here.

[Craziaskowboi]

Reasons I refuse to date a single mother


1. I'll never be her top priority even if I make her my top priority.

2. There's no such thing as concrete plans with her.

3. The father(s) will always be in her life to some degree, so there's no true exclusivity.

4. If the children aren't mine, then they're not my responsibility.

5. The fact that she's a single mother in the first place reflects poorly on her judgment.


If this makes me selfish, then so be it. I want to do the family thing the way it's supposed to be done.

[Chowhound]

Originally Posted by Gnutella

Reasons I refuse to date a single mother


1. I'll never be her top priority even if I make her my top priority.

2. There's no such thing as concrete plans with her.

3. The father(s) will always be in her life to some degree, so there's no true exclusivity.

4. If the children aren't mine, then they're not my responsibility.

5. The fact that she's a single mother in the first place reflects poorly on her judgment.


If this makes me selfish, then so be it. I want to do the family thing the way it's supposed to be done.

Number 5 is way way off base... you don't know her history... could be a few reasons why she's a single mother

[FBJ]

Originally Posted by Gnutella

Reasons I refuse to date a single mother


1. I'll never be her top priority even if I make her my top priority.

2. There's no such thing as concrete plans with her.

3. The father(s) will always be in her life to some degree, so there's no true exclusivity.

4. If the children aren't mine, then they're not my responsibility.

5. The fact that she's a single mother in the first place reflects poorly on her judgment.


If this makes me selfish, then so be it. I want to do the family thing the way it's supposed to be done.

I think most men in their 40's no longer care if someone has a kid

[cloven]

Based on the comments within each of these threads, here's another one along same lines, brimming with responses.
Title makes it sound limited to a narrow demographic, but people replied (regardless of gender), in similar fashion to how they have here.

//www.city-data.com/forum/relat...ds-do-you.html

[Huckleberry3911948]

when u date someone with children the level of expectations of everyone involved skyrockets--- including the kids.