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A: No
B: No
C: No but it sure is disrespectful and if he's going to act like he's single and immature then why be in a relationship?
D: No, but same answer as C.
E: No, but same as C and D.
F: No but borderline and it's like saying he would rather spend time with them than me. Why be in a relationship then?
G: No but it just means maybe we're not meant to be.
H: No, but same answer as G.
Overall, none of those scenarios are cheating to me but C-F would be deal-breakers. Disrespect is what I will not tolerate. I don't like the idea of being considered as second best dish.
A. Looking at porns ONLY when your SO is not around
B. Fantasizing other people while having sex with your SO
C. Create a profile on dating site
D. Browsing profiles on dating site
E. Flirting with people on the internet with no intentions of meeting them in person
F. Sharing intimate details with opposite sex friends, but not with your SO
G. You are no longer sexually attracted to your SO, but you are sexually attracted to other people
H. You dress up for others, but not for your SO
I spent nearly 40 years in the divorce business, and it never ceases to amaze me what people see as problems or potential problems.
But if you look at each one of the items posted, and break them down to it's lowest common theme, or issue, it is ALL about COMMUNICATION. (Yes, sex IS communication.) Sounds like a cliche', but it is true.
Want to watch porn? Why do you need it if you are communicating? If you cannot tell her that YOU WANT her to be like those porn stars, and do the things they do, then what do you have? No communication. if she (or he) does not pay attention to what you want and need, you have a pretty good idea what the next ten or twenty years will be like.
People need to talk more. Especially if your needs, whatever they are, are not being met.
I spent nearly 40 years in the divorce business, and it never ceases to amaze me what people see as problems or potential problems.
But if you look at each one of the items posted, and break them down to it's lowest common theme, or issue, it is ALL about COMMUNICATION. (Yes, sex IS communication.) Sounds like a cliche', but it is true.
Want to watch porn? Why do you need it if you are communicating? If you cannot tell her that YOU WANT her to be like those porn stars, and do the things they do, then what do you have? No communication. if she (or he) does not pay attention to what you want and need, you have a pretty good idea what the next ten or twenty years will be like.
People need to talk more. Especially if your needs, whatever they are, are not being met.
Communication is so, so, so important. Communication and demonstration. I think some people just stop talking to each other and if you aren't willing to share certain things with your partner, and to be open to learning from your partner, or accepting their personal limits and boundaries...
At the end of the day, worrying about what's consider cheating or isn't really only messes up your psyche. I learned that not too long ago.
No, some of these can lead to cheating, which is a problem and you either need to let that person go or need to talk to him about what they are doing and there intentions.
People will have a different opinion about cheating, so you try to find that person who shares similar views on these kinds of issues.
C and G are signs of things going south. Creating a profile on a dating site would be done with the hopes of getting a message from someone and then things could likely escalate from there. That's the opening chapter to the end as that takes effort to set up. Not being attracted to the person you are with and not caring at all how your partner sees you is loss of interest and unless there is a reason that could be changed is not a good sign. F. Would be a little unnerving but not a deal breaker.
Peoples opinions, And how the current situation with their partner is can have varied views on a few of the other things, Though some may be signs of potential strife to come.
A. No
B. Yes (for me it's like to mentally have sex with another person, so it is a kind of cheating)
C. No (if it's created to just talk, but do it accurately, because if any friends of you or your OS happen to see you sitting there they may get it not right and cause lots of troubles or spread offensive rumors)
D. No (I don't consider it as cheating when I do it myself but I think it'd offend me to see my bf looking at other girls' pics)
E. No, internet is internet (as long as it doesn't go too far, of course)
F. No
G. No, but I think it must be discussed between two cause if both feel this way why making it difficult staying together?
H. Not sure. Rather yes than no
C., is an obvious first step and suggests an intent to cheat--this would give me great pause concerning the state of the relationship.
The others involve varying degrees of disrespect towards your partner, and should probably be addressed with some serious heartfelt communication .
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