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This weekend my husband and I were setting some stuff up on my DVR and he gave me his tablet to do some stuff. While going through some photos on his tablet, I came across a video of what looked like his cell phone and on the screen of the phone was a chat message between two people. Basically the chat message said something to the affect of the girl was giving her price to hook up and the guy was questioning it. When I asked him about it he looked at me and said it was a porn video he had downloaded. When I questioned it it looked like someone holding the phone and the thumb looked like his. He said, "why would I video my own phone with my own tablet?" Then he shows me the text messaging on his phone and they did not look the same. He then goes on to say that there's not a man alive who doesn't have a cell phone or tablet who doesn't have a porn site or maybe a video downloaded to his device. I'm now wondering if my husband has a porn addiction. He's always watching Netflix documentaries on hookers, escort services, or women being sold into trafficking. He's working on his master's degree in human services counseling right now and says that aspect of society has fascinated him. Should I worry that he may be addicted to porn? Granted, we're not having sex but maybe once a month or so.
As much as most women won't understand, a lot of men simply like porn. It doesn't mean they are perverted or unhappy in their relationship, just that men are wired that way sometimes. That doesn't mean that your Husband doesn't have something going on beyond just liking porn, but simply saying that if a man watches it occasionally he can be very normal and happy with you too.
Ever heard the old expression "I don't care where he gets his appetite, just as long as he comes home to eat ?" With porn being one of the most downloaded items on the net, SOMEONE is watching it, not just 3 or 4 perverts.
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As much as most women won't understand, a lot of men simply like porn.
Most women understand I think. Most women I know watch porn themselves. The notion that women's port is erotic writing, while has some merit (that genre is primarily sold to them), the idea that women don't watch porn is pure bunk.
My concern here would be they rarely have sex. Who gives a crud about some porn. The lack of doing it is unnerving.
This weekend my husband and I were setting some stuff up on my DVR and he gave me his tablet to do some stuff. While going through some photos on his tablet, I came across a video of what looked like his cell phone and on the screen of the phone was a chat message between two people. Basically the chat message said something to the affect of the girl was giving her price to hook up and the guy was questioning it. When I asked him about it he looked at me and said it was a porn video he had downloaded. When I questioned it it looked like someone holding the phone and the thumb looked like his. He said, "why would I video my own phone with my own tablet?" Then he shows me the text messaging on his phone and they did not look the same. He then goes on to say that there's not a many alive who doesn't have a cell phone or tablet who doesn't have a porn site or maybe a video downloaded to his device. I'm now wondering if my husband has a porn addiction. He's always watching Netflix documentaries on hookers, escort services, or women being sold into trafficking. He's working on his master's degree in human services counseling right now and says that aspect of society has fascinated him. Should I worry that he may be addicted to porn? Granted, we're not having sex but maybe once a month or so.
I would say that is not enough sex. If you feel the same, I would try to fix that first before wondering if there is porn addiction.
This weekend my husband and I were setting some stuff up on my DVR and he gave me his tablet to do some stuff. While going through some photos on his tablet, I came across a video of what looked like his cell phone and on the screen of the phone was a chat message between two people. Basically the chat message said something to the affect of the girl was giving her price to hook up and the guy was questioning it. When I asked him about it he looked at me and said it was a porn video he had downloaded. When I questioned it it looked like someone holding the phone and the thumb looked like his. He said, "why would I video my own phone with my own tablet?" Then he shows me the text messaging on his phone and they did not look the same. He then goes on to say that there's not a many alive who doesn't have a cell phone or tablet who doesn't have a porn site or maybe a video downloaded to his device. I'm now wondering if my husband has a porn addiction. He's always watching Netflix documentaries on hookers, escort services, or women being sold into trafficking. He's working on his master's degree in human services counseling right now and says that aspect of society has fascinated him. Should I worry that he may be addicted to porn? Granted, we're not having sex but maybe once a month or so.
Have you ever asked yourself why you are married to this particular man?
You present yourself as wanting him to completely change who he is and what he does.
What you should be worried about is how much longer he is going to put up with all of this nonsense from you.
Most women understand I think. Most women I know watch porn themselves. The notion that women's port is erotic writing, while has some merit (that genre is primarily sold to them), the idea that women don't watch porn is pure bunk.
My concern here would be they rarely have sex. Who gives a crud about some porn. The lack of doing it is unnerving.
My husband even mentioned this as well. 50 Shades of Grey book was huge among women a few years ago. There probably wasn't many women who didn't ready it. He said that women have their crutch just like men. A woman reading a romance novel is normal but a man watching porn isn't. He even said that if a woman is reading 50 Shades in an open area no one would give a second thought about it but a man watching a porn video in private makes him look suspect.
Well, I don't look at porn, but that's not to say I haven't been shown it or some friend hasn't sent me an attachment in an email. Now, make no mistake I love the physical attractiveness of the female body. However, to me porn is like going to a restaurant and looking at the menu but getting nothing to eat. I'm not going to torture myself like that it's just dumb. But hey that's me and everyone is different so I'm not here to judge whether someone likes to watch porn or not, that's their business.
Needless to say, I don't think the OP has much to be worried about. Lots of men do look at porn, and the husband has a point when he says "why would I video my own phone with my own tablet?" So, I think she need not worry about it being a case of infidelity. And if it's true the Husband is working on his master in human service counseling, it could simply be a situation of him researching on a thesis? Why he's watching such documentaries on netflix. I've studied things in-depth before that I found revolting just so as to have a better understanding of it. It's been said: "It's wise to study one's adversary, is it not? It does not mean you agree with them or approve of them.
However, I will say one thing if the OP is only having sex once a month, she needs to spice things up and take a roll in the sack more often. Heavy levels of testosterone building up in a man is never good, a need for release is biological, once or twice a week should suffice. A satisfied man at home is a man that won't get the wandering eyes syndrome.
Well, I don't look at porn, but that's not to say I haven't been shown it or some friend hasn't sent me an attachment in an email. Now, make no mistake I love the physical attractiveness of the female body. However, to me porn is like going to a restaurant and looking at the menu but getting nothing to eat. I'm not going to torture myself like that it's just dumb. But hey that's me and everyone is different so I'm not here to judge whether someone likes to watch porn or not, that's their business.
Needless to say, I don't think the OP has much to be worried about. Lots of men do look at porn, and the husband has a point when he says "why would I video my own phone with my own tablet?" So, I think she need not worry about it being a case of infidelity. And if it's true the Husband is working on his master in human service counseling, it could simply be a situation of him researching on a thesis? Why he's watching such documentaries on netflix. I've studied things in-depth before that I found revolting just so as to have a better understanding of it. It's been said: "It's wise to study one's adversary, is it not? It does not mean you agree with them or approve of them.
However, I will say one thing if the OP is only having sex once a month, she needs to spice things up and take a roll in the sack more often. Heavy levels of testosterone building up in a man is never good, a need for release is biological, once or twice a week should suffice. A satisfied man at home is a man that won't get the wandering eyes syndrome.
My husband tries but he goes about it the wrong way. He'll swat me on the ass or he'll wait till we're in the bed and he'll grab a boob or something like that. I like to be romanced. He'll laugh and say, "we're in our late 40's and we've been together going on 14 or 15 years now. The days of trying to romance you out of your panties are over." Most of the time when he does that I turn him down cause that's not the way I want to be approached. Why can't he bring flowers home? Take me out to a nice dinner? You know, the little things that women like. When we first met he use to cook for me all the time and that was romantic cause I could go to his place and eat a nice meal. Now he still cooks but it's not the same anymore.
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With porn being one of the most downloaded items on the net, SOMEONE is watching it, not just 3 or 4 perverts.
