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Sex is only bad when one partner doesn't care about the sexual needs of the other. This does not a good relationship make, so, yes, anyone would be justified in dumping someone if the sex was bad.
Great sex is like 80-90% of the reason that I wade through the manuar that is the dating and relationship game and because I am not super great looking myself I had to date and marry in a lower leauge so yea the sex better be great or I am out.
What if sex was devoid of intercourse but your partner still could make you O from outercourse, would you consider that bad sex? Or is intercourse a 100% requirement?
What if sex was devoid of intercourse but your partner still could make you O from outercourse, would you consider that bad sex? Or is intercourse a 100% requirement?
No I'd just stop having sex with him and then he'd break up with me. That way he can be secure in the relationship ending and I don't have to deal with any male tantrums if I had broken up with him over bad sex. I find most male mindsets are 'sex isn't important enough for her to enjoy but important enough for me to have'. So while I find most guys will insult and call a gal shallow/immature/etc for opting out of a relationship with bad sex they will also bail asap on a sexless relationship or a relationship where they aren't getting enough sex.
I've been with plenty of partners, most of them were average/typical. A few were bad, generally because they were selfish, or because I felt negatively towards the PERSON so it didn't matter what they did. I've been in relationships before where at first I was into the guy and he turned me on and later for some reason I saw him differently...he smelled wrong to me, he turned my stomach, I didn't want him near me.
Can't really explain exactly why, but it's happened. And I've had partners who upset me terribly but the sex was so good, I want to beg for more, put up with anything, if only to get it again. Actually...I've had ONE person like that. Only one. I've found that it can be very difficult to educate most men on what to do and how to do it, and I can be somewhat resistant to requests to change my methods as well. There's no substitute for basic sexual compatibility.
Would I break up with someone over it? Dwindling sex, bad sex, no sex? It would depend completely on how invested I was in the rest of the relationship. Do we otherwise enjoy one another's company a great deal? Do we have kids, accounts, property together? Is opening the relationship an option?
Can't answer the question without addressing those aspects.
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Honestly, I wouldn't commit to them at this time if the sex was bad. I made that mistake when I was younger.
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