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Old 03-18-2013, 11:49 AM
 
Location: Reno, NV
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I laugh at all the people who want to claim: 'So in love, so in love, so in love!' and the ones that claim 'spouses will put up with damn anything "because of love" before jumping ship and finding someone else.'

Look how fast that went out the window.
I agree. Love often fades, dies, or is killed by your partner. Love alone is not enough to sustain a relationship, but I think it is a necessary ingredient for a good relationship.
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Old 03-18-2013, 12:02 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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I agree. Love often fades, dies, or is killed by your partner. Love alone is not enough to sustain a relationship, but I think it is a necessary ingredient for a good relationship.

so what the heck is the point then? People carry on like it's the end all be all, obviously it's not.
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Old 03-18-2013, 12:29 PM
 
Location: Reno, NV
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so what the heck is the point then? People carry on like it's the end all be all, obviously it's not.
It's great while it lasts, and for some, it never fades - for some, it continues to grow. Just because many or even most never find it or don't have the skills to create or maintain it, does not mean it isn't worthwhile seeking.
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Old 03-18-2013, 01:38 PM
 
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so what the heck is the point then? People carry on like it's the end all be all, obviously it's not.
It's love. Your partner's going to change, you're going to change, it's not some stagnant thing. It's not logical, it's just how you feel towards that person.
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Old 03-18-2013, 01:41 PM
 
Location: Glasgow, uk
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Obviously, relationships should not be based 100% on sex. However, would you be able to stay with someone if their sex was not pleasing you. What if they only were able to provide you with good sex when they were drunk? If you were to break up with them would you tell them the reason that you no longer wanted to be with them was because their sex was not good?

Yes i would stay with him, however i would tell him i wasnt satisfied and try to fix the problem
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Old 03-18-2013, 02:28 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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It's love. Your partner's going to change, you're going to change, it's not some stagnant thing. It's not logical, it's just how you feel towards that person.

yes clearly it's not logical and makes no sense. just spur of the moment 'I feel this way today, maybe not tomorrow' nonsense far as I can tell.
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Old 03-18-2013, 02:31 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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It's great while it lasts, and for some, it never fades - for some, it continues to grow. Just because many or even most never find it or don't have the skills to create or maintain it, does not mean it isn't worthwhile seeking.

that's your opinion and obviously you're entitled to it. Again, seems like a big waste of time, if in the end it's a temporary arrangement anyways. also, if that is in fact the case, people should stop carrying on about 'soulmates' and the 'love of my life,' over some temporary arrangement that gets blown to bits next year or 5 years from then. makes no sense.
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Old 03-18-2013, 02:36 PM
 
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I agree. Love often fades, dies, or is killed by your partner. Love alone is not enough to sustain a relationship, but I think it is a necessary ingredient for a good relationship.

Love may be killed by a partner through things like abuse, cheating, or just plain lousy behavior. But I don't agree that it necessarily fades on its own. To me, love is a verb, even more than a feeling. It's the kindness, the giving, the respect, the sharing, the appreciation one has for another. I think of it as a garden: If it fades, it's because it's starving, and if it dies, it's because it was neglected.
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Old 03-18-2013, 02:59 PM
 
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Love may be killed by a partner through things like abuse, cheating, or just plain lousy behavior. But I don't agree that it necessarily fades on its own. To me, love is a verb, even more than a feeling. It's the kindness, the giving, the respect, the sharing, the appreciation one has for another. I think of it as a garden: If it fades, it's because it's starving, and if it dies, it's because it was neglected.
Wow so true. Nothing else matters but love.
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Old 03-18-2013, 03:36 PM
 
Location: Austin, TX
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I agree with NiteRyder...for me it depends on what is meant by "bad".

1) Bad as in "inexperienced"? If I really liked her, she doesn't have sexual hangups and the relationship was good outside the bedroom, then sure I'd stick around and teach if she's willing to learn.

2) Bad as in differences in preferred positions, kinks, moves, frequency, etc? Well that's moreso incompatibility rather than terrible sex by her or me. We'd communicate about the issue. If it can be reconciled, great...if not, I may let her go and move on. She may be great for some other guy.

3) Bad as her being a dead fish, lacking in effort, emotion or passion, or just a general bad attitude? Then it's probably not going to work out in the long run and I'd likely leave. This assumes that the sex started off like this from the beginning. (Sex starting off great and then becoming bad like this after a year or two is a different story.) In this scenario I think it is very unlikely that the rest of the relationship will be good. Bedroom issues would likely manifest themselves in other aspects of the relationship. A perceptive person could possibly detect such issues early on in dating, before things escalated to sex.
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