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I don't think successful black women are any more arrogant than successful black men. At least successful black women don't usually start thinking that ALL black men are inferior to them.
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Originally Posted by Lilly1224
I'm awaiting his explanation as well. This should be really entertaining.
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Originally Posted by Peacelilies
It is interesting that in America, when a black woman wants an equal or higher status mate, she is usually told she's arrogant, uppity and encouraged to lower her standards. I don't seem to hear that about other races.
Personally, I refuse to date "down" . Few times I tried, it did not work.
It's not just me.... Take a look at this video if you haven't seen it.
It is interesting that in America, when a black woman wants an equal or higher status mate, she is usually told she's arrogant, uppity and encouraged to lower her standards. I don't seem to hear that about other races.
Personally, I refuse to date "down" . Few times I tried, it did not work.
Different experiences as in mine when a gal wants an equal or higher status male partner she's called arrogant, uppity, stuck up, etc though that may be because gals seem to get shamed and told to their lower standards if they have standards other than 'nice'.
I agree. The two black men who I dated many years ago didn't have college degrees, but I didn't care because I liked them. If I choose to date someone without a college degree/professional career, that's fine, but it's also fine if I prefer to date someone with a college degree/professional career since I have those things myself. I don't know why this is so hard for some people to comprehend.
It really boils down to personal preferences, however, I think it's wrong to tell young black women (in particular) that they are out of line for wanting a man who has a similar educational background and/or career.
It's real simple. It shouldn't be a requirement if a black man can successfully support himself without one though a legal means.
And let's not forget how many young people today are graduating with a mortgage sized debt just so they can say they have a degree.
More like it's real evasive. "It shouldn't be a requirement" doesn't answer how a gal with a degree wanting a guy with a degree is unrealistic and delusional. For it to be unrealistic and delusional there would have to be a low chance of her getting a guy who fits that standard such as a lacking amount of guys with degrees that it's such a rarity for her to think she can get such.
There are lots of things that 'shouldn't' be a requirement ala personal opinion such as blowjobs shouldn't be a requirement since a guy will most likely orgasm from sex. However that doesn't mean it's an unrealistic expectation or delusional.
It really boils down to personal preferences, however, I think it's wrong to tell young black women (in particular) that they are out of line for wanting a man who has a similar educational background and/or career.
But are you at least open to the idea that a man can make good money and be just as educated as you without even graduating from college? People, such as myself, are autodidacts.
It's real simple. It shouldn't be a requirement if a black man can successfully support himself without one though a legal means.
And let's not forget how many young people today are graduating with a mortgage sized debt just so they can say they have a degree.
A woman is allowed to have requirements of what she wants in a mate.
Guys do that all the time. You see a 40 year old stating he wants a girl that's 20, slim and pretty, meanwhile he has a protruding belly.Who gets to tell him, "it shouldn't be a requirement"?
What is wrong with wanting someone who has a similar educational background as you do? It's not like you are asking for something you don't have.
It also typically means that you both have something in common and can relate.
Listen this is nothing new. There are countless books and blogs written on this topic. If you haven't experienced it, count yourself very fortunate, because colorism is a very real occurrence amongst black folks.
I didn't say I have never experienced it, I said that your world of 15 year old girls doesn't tell the whole story. I have a confidence level that teens don't have. Why not preach confidence to them instead of crying?
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