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I'm in great shape, I have personality( that's what people say) I'm outgoing. I'm fine. I wouldn't call myself clingy but you know I like to stay beside my man I think it comes down to the kids. I believe he wants this instant family. I tell him I'll give him a child in a year I just want to be established with my career first. He's 46 so he's impatient.
You do know about the increased rate of mental illness of children born from men who are over the age of 40 right? You realize the risk there and yet you still want to "give him a child"? Why not give your child a fighting chance at having a normal life, with a father who will be able to see him live into his 30's+? I don't get that.
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Lately I look around me and think I might have a better chance at finding a good, stable guy if I had married too young to an abusive jerk, cranked some kids out, had a messy divorce, and now carry tons of emotional baggage in addition to a fat belly from child bearing. This is apparently what's attractive to men in my age range (late 20s to mid 30s).
And if that's what they want, then let them have it. I suppose they wouldn't know what to do with someone better.
However, this is not truth, just a bruised ego. And it will be gotten over....
Lately I look around me and think I might have a better chance at finding a good, stable guy if I had married too young to an abusive jerk, cranked some kids out, had a messy divorce, and now carry tons of emotional baggage in addition to a fat belly from child bearing. This is apparently what's attractive to men in my age range (late 20s to mid 30s).
And if that's what they want, then let them have it. I suppose they wouldn't know what to do with someone better.
However, this is not truth, just a bruised ego. And it will be gotten over....
Lately I look around me and think I might have a better chance at finding a good, stable guy if I had married too young to an abusive jerk, cranked some kids out, had a messy divorce, and now carry tons of emotional baggage in addition to a fat belly from child bearing. This is apparently what's attractive to men in my age range (late 20s to mid 30s).
And if that's what they want, then let them have it. I suppose they wouldn't know what to do with someone better.
However, this is not truth, just a bruised ego. And it will be gotten over....
As an older woman, I half way fit your description. The guy I liked early 30s, I am late 30s disappeared on me. I assume he found someone younger , probably with the emotional baggage (I have a little too) and some belly fat and a kid or two but who knows . . .it hurts but people like who they like. Sometimes the "better" ladies have higher standards some guys may not want to meet.
As a 20's male I know that my marriage may not work, but I am not ignorant about that. If we drift away from each other after the kids I will work my ass off to make it work. I know it won't be all sunshine and rainbows, but being scared of the worse case scenario will not result in happiness. My dad just got remarried and he seems happier than I've ever seen him, I don't think it's a coin flip, but just people waiting long enough to be compatible.
As an older woman, I half way fit your description. The guy I liked early 30s, I am late 30s disappeared on me. I assume he found someone younger , probably with the emotional baggage (I have a little too) and some belly fat and a kid or two but who knows . . .it hurts but people like who they like. Sometimes the "better" ladies have higher standards some guys may not want to meet.
To clarify, the "better" part was part of the bruised ego section. I'm not saying divorce, children & some extra pudge make someone less worthy of love.
In a few years she will want a baby. And there you are, a new baby Daddy at age 50.
Your young wife, girl friend will want to go out to clubs, do things all day Saturday, go out Saturday night, and go out Sunday morning. You go.
Meanwhile, my kids are all gone, I enjoy a nice dinner out once in awhile, but my goals are more about adding to my TSP account. I have zero desire for a child. I am at the age where you take care of a grandbaby for an hour or so and give it back. Thank God.
If you need that young un, you go. I am perfectly happy. Enjoy.
Haha true! Wouldn't she want the 28 or 35 year old man who still has a nice body and his hair and can get it up?
When I was in my mid-to-late 20s, I was with a man in his 40s. He looked better than guys my age (still does even at 51!). He was always a perfect gentleman, who was even more beautiful on the inside than outside. Who wouldn't want that?
Now at 33, I find myself choosing between a 27-yo with a full head of hair and an extra 20 lbs and a handsome, slim 49-yo who has lost some hair. Both have great personalities and are fun. Who would I prefer? The older man. I can't stand the extra weight. I look at the weight the 27-yo has and think that's only going to get worse with time. Some women like guys with extra meat on their bones. I don't.
People focus too much on age.
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