Should I give my marriage another chance? (guys, love, therapy)

[lifesprecious09]

We haven't lived together in about a year.

Things went horribly south in 2012.

We're both out of work.

Seems like we're never on the same page financially. I'm either out of work or he is. I'm tired of living like this.

Sex life is non existent

He complains about everything. Never happy.

He can be verbally and physically abusive, controlling. His mother hates me.

The good is

He does anything for me.

Always there for me to help me out in time of need.



This is sad that the bad outweighs the good :/

Only reason I'm asking if I should give this another chance because folks are telling me that my issues with him can be worked out. I"m like how so???

What do guys think??

[OngletNYC]

What do you mean by verbally and physically abusive? If you are speaking literally,then I can't come up with a reason why you should give the marriage another chance.

[MauriceP]

Physical and verbal abuse? Please think about it, no one deserves to be abused

[Percentage]

You both should get some help. Counseling, therapy...wherever people in an unhealthy marriage go to get counsel before attempting to get back together. I've never understood how someone could claim to love his/her spouse and at the same time physically abuse them. That is not love....or at least not the way I was raised to view it. Best of luck!

[Dr. Clean]

Go to talkaboutmarriage.com and post your issues there. That forum has a lot more experienced posters than this one on marriage/separation/divorce issues. Here you get a lot of drive-by type opinions. Good Luck.

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by lifesprecious09

We haven't lived together in about a year.

Things went horribly south in 2012.

We're both out of work.

Seems like we're never on the same page financially. I'm either out of work or he is. I'm tired of living like this.

Sex life is non existent

He complains about everything. Never happy.

He can be verbally and physically abusive, controlling. His mother hates me.

The good is

He does anything for me.

Always there for me to help me out in time of need.



This is sad that the bad outweighs the good :/

Only reason I'm asking if I should give this another chance because folks are telling me that my issues with him can be worked out. I"m like how so???

What do guys think??

Physical abuse??

Hit me once, shame on you -

Hit me twice, shame on me for sticking around to let it happen again.

If you two want to make a go of this train wreck, the only way to do it is with professional guidance.

He would need to show he's getting some individual help for his anger issues befroe I'd ever agree to any kind of marriage counseling.

And a minimum of 6 months of counseling would be required before I'd ever live under the same roof again.

[D. Scott]

Originally Posted by Percentage

You both should get some help. Counseling, therapy...wherever people in an unhealthy marriage go to get counsel before attempting to get back together. I've never understood how someone could claim to love his/her spouse and at the same time physically abuse them. That is not love....or at least not the way I was raised to view it. Best of luck!

The abuse is very concerning, I agree with this above poster. Many marriages and relationships go through trying periods but abuse and constantly being at odds are not ways it should be handled.

[oceangaia]

I would say no. Life is too short to deal with that. A relationship can sometimes take a little work but it shouldn't be a constant battle trying to force a square peg into a round hole.

[srjth]

I remember you. Your husband treated you like CRAP. No.

[lifesprecious09]

Originally Posted by srjth

I remember you. Your husband treated you like CRAP. No.

LOL Omg. You have good memory!