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Old 03-24-2013, 09:21 AM
 
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With me, you get two phone calls if I really like you. You get one phone call if I wasn't really impressed by you. You don't return my call? I take your number out of my phone and you can consider that your hint was taken.

I refuse to chase after women. Rejection hurts too much for that.

Sorry.

My motto is "If I wouldn't do it (such as ignore a phone call from a member of the opposite sex) then its a negative message to me if you do it" and its damn near impossible not to realize someone called you on the phone.

How many chances do you or would you give?
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Old 03-24-2013, 09:23 AM
 
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If a woman is not answering the second call you are right, do not chase.

I do not understand why rejection hurts so much to men. We women get judged and rejected all the time and is not the end of the world. It is part of life.
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Old 03-24-2013, 09:45 AM
 
Location: Hartford CT
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If it's very early on in the dating process. Only one for me. I will wait a couple of days for a response, but I am not calling again.
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Old 03-24-2013, 09:54 AM
 
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How many chances do you or would you give?
I generally don't experience that as I don't date in that way. If the relationship is going nowhere then we will just remain friends or stop contacting each other.

If she loses interest she won't ignore me, but respond slower and less detailed. The only time she will ignore you is if you don't get the hint. I will take that as a hint to either fix the problems, or look elsewhere.

So if a girl suddenly stop contacting me it is likely due to me unintentionally hurting her or she is having problems and losing contact with everyone. Hence I will use a little effort to get her to talk to me again, so we can talk about it.
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Old 03-24-2013, 10:10 AM
 
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As I am female, I quit easily. If you flake on me, for sure I'm not calling to find out what happened, no matter how much I like you. If I initiate contact twice, even if you asked me to (because I'm starting to think what men say they like really is not an indicator of what they really like.) and you inquire about my schedule but do not try to make plans with me, the ball's in your court now. Also, doesn't matter the man's circumstances or how much I like him. And I'm sorry, but if I am no longer interested and you are just not taking the hints , for example, I've said no to more than one of your date invites and I have ignored you at least once, I think I'm going to have to go back in to ignore mode. How many times will you try to ask a girl out before you conclude the ball is in her court? And if you initiate texting , do you wait for her to initiate next time or do you continue , as men, to take the lead if she is responsive?
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Old 03-24-2013, 10:25 AM
 
Location: New Jersey
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2 is good. If they don't call back after the second one they are not interested.
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Old 03-24-2013, 10:28 AM
 
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With me, you get two phone calls if I really like you. You get one phone call if I wasn't really impressed by you. You don't return my call? I take your number out of my phone and you can consider that your hint was taken.

I refuse to chase after women. Rejection hurts too much for that.

Sorry.

My motto is "If I wouldn't do it (such as ignore a phone call from a member of the opposite sex) then its a negative message to me if you do it" and its damn near impossible not to realize someone called you on the phone.

How many chances do you or would you give?
You are right!! Two calls, on the off chance that the first message was not received, then make the return call. You don't want anyone who plays games anyway, or makes you wait five days before returning your call. So yes, one call, maybe two. chalk it up as a loss and move on. there loss
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Old 03-24-2013, 11:53 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I`m a female. Back in the dating days, I would walk away if he didn`t return my call in 2 days!
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Old 03-24-2013, 12:11 PM
 
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If a woman is not answering the second call you are right, do not chase.

I do not understand why rejection hurts so much to men. We women get judged and rejected all the time and is not the end of the world. It is part of life.
good point

women are better at this-and a little smarter, sometimes men will think this one woman represents the whole species of women
-while a woman will look at one guy as an individual
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Old 03-24-2013, 12:20 PM
 
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With me, you get two phone calls if I really like you. You get one phone call if I wasn't really impressed by you. You don't return my call? I take your number out of my phone and you can consider that your hint was taken.

I refuse to chase after women. Rejection hurts too much for that.

Sorry.

My motto is "If I wouldn't do it (such as ignore a phone call from a member of the opposite sex) then its a negative message to me if you do it" and its damn near impossible not to realize someone called you on the phone.

How many chances do you or would you give?
Exactly the same.
2 phone calls if I thought something was there.
1 phone call if not.
After that, your number is deleted.

Bumped into a girl whose number I deleted a year before, and she was like "you should call me". Told her "I deleted your number, sorry". She asked for my phone and re-saved her number. (Actually, she called me so I'd have her phone number and made me save it.)
10 minutes later it was re-deleted.
To be fair, I took her out, asked for a second date and got nothing. So, I moved on...I wasn't going back in time. Don't want to re-live life....
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