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Old 03-25-2013, 12:10 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Many of you recall that I previously asked questions regarding a situation of unrequited love that I am experiencing as a senior in High School. I was quite pleased with the feedback that I received and had the privilege of reading many insightful comments, suggestions, and advice.Today I come to the forum with another question which I hope you can provide your honest opinion regarding what I should do.If you don’t already know my situation I can tell you this. I have admired a girl since freshmen year, however the girl has known about it for some times. She is aware of whom I am yet, she does not reciprocate.

My question today is this: What do you think about the idea of writing a letter to her explaining the misunderstandings that have occurred over the past three years? I am aware that many classmates have attempted to help me by going up to her and asking if she knows who I am, if she has spoken to me, etc. I will have you know that I did not instruct them to do this. I am also aware of the possibility that she has been given some misinformation regarding my intentions, character, etc. It is someone understandable why she would be confused.

That is why I am considering writing this letter. I would appreciate the opportunity to explain my side of the story, and make her understand that I do not have bad intentions. This is important to me because I would like to graduate from HS on good graces with this individual.
What do you think about this idea? Would you do it if you were in my predicament? What are some of the important points I should make in this letter?

I have also discussed it with my mom, and she is not totally against the idea. She simply thinks it should be done very carefully, after we graduate.
Thank you very much for any consideration you can give my question. I greatly appreciate all advice and suggestions.


PS: I apologize that this OP is a bit disorganized. I am writing this during my lunch break, so I do not have much time.

Last edited by Jay Watson; 03-25-2013 at 12:26 PM..

 
Old 03-25-2013, 12:12 PM
 
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If I were the recipient of this letter, I would think you stalkerish and would avoid you like the plague.
 
Old 03-25-2013, 12:26 PM
 
Location: Texas
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If I were the recipient of this letter, I would think you stalkerish and would avoid you like the plague.
The goal is to help her understand my true feelings. I want to end the misconsceptions that you apparently believe as well.

Last edited by Jay Watson; 03-25-2013 at 12:45 PM..
 
Old 03-25-2013, 12:29 PM
 
Location: Davenport, Iowa
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Would you do it if you were in my predicament?
No.
 
Old 03-25-2013, 12:32 PM
 
Location: Reno, NV
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YOU care what she thinks about the past three years. Clearly she does not want to think about you at all and does not care about "explanations."

Write the letter, never send it or preferably burn it, and get over it.
 
Old 03-25-2013, 12:34 PM
 
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If I were you I'd drop this silly charade and just move on. You're wasting your time.
 
Old 03-25-2013, 12:35 PM
 
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The goal is to help understand my true feelings. I want to end the misconsceptions that you apparently believe as well.

She does not care about your "true feelings". Your obsession is creepy. If you are not careful, you could wind up in trouble.
 
Old 03-25-2013, 12:48 PM
 
Location: Texas
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YOU care what she thinks about the past three years. Clearly she does not want to think about you at all and does not care about "explanations."

Write the letter, never send it or preferably burn it, and get over it.
I will admit that your opinion has merit. Yes it is true that I care, however I believe I deserve to defend myself from whatever she believes me to have done. As far as I know the only thing I am guilty of is daring to persume that I MIGHT have had a chance with her. It would be quite enlightening to hear her side as well
 
Old 03-25-2013, 12:56 PM
 
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What a scary obsession.

I'm so glad I no longer have crushes on people, nor do I obsess.
 
Old 03-25-2013, 12:58 PM
 
Location: SF CA, USA
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What a scary obsession.

I'm so glad I no longer have crushes on people, nor do I obsess.
Not even celebrities :P ?
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