Guys, do you find groups of women intimidating? (boyfriends, love, husbands)

[Trimac20]

Especially when you're say out a club trying to talk to a girl, and she's with her friends, or in any situation, really. Maybe it's because in high school groups of girls would often start talking to me with a lot of giggling, but I can just be intimidated by groups of women or don't feel comfortable in their presence. I can't always help it but I just feel like they're judging me or something. Although sometimes I've been in situations where I was the only male in the group and I've got used to it, often times when I first meet them I have the paranoid suspicion that deep down they're making fun of me. It's probably pretty silly, and might reflect on my own insecurities and inexperience with dealing with the opposite sex in the group context. I mean I have female friends, but we tend to hang out one on one. And i should say, in most of these group situations the type of women (not really 'conventional types') might also be a factor. I'm just wondering if many guys here feel the same way, especially those without much experience dating or even relating much in that way.

[filihok]

Originally Posted by Trimac20

Especially when you're say out a club trying to talk to a girl, and she's with her friends, or in any situation, really. Maybe it's because in high school groups of girls would often start talking to me with a lot of giggling, but I can just be intimidated by groups of women or don't feel comfortable in their presence. I can't always help it but I just feel like they're judging me or something. Although sometimes I've been in situations where I was the only male in the group and I've got used to it, often times when I first meet them I have the paranoid suspicion that deep down they're making fun of me. It's probably pretty silly, and might reflect on my own insecurities and inexperience with dealing with the opposite sex in the group context. I mean I have female friends, but we tend to hang out one on one. And i should say, in most of these group situations the type of women (not really 'conventional types') might also be a factor. I'm just wondering if many guys here feel the same way, especially those without much experience dating or even relating much in that way.

I prefer groups of women.

But, seriously, I do.
It's easier to have conversation when there are multiple people around. More sources of input.

[Checkered24]

Approaching a group of women can be intimidating! Especially in a setting where your trying to pick one up. Yet it can be to your advantage like filihok points out.

Get yourself a wingman to balance the terms of engagement.

[Lilac110]

Trimac, let me let you in on a couple of little secrets: When women go out in groups, we often want you to be intimidated, especially if we're at a club dancing. Groups of women dancing often want to be left alone, and we know that there's strength in numbers. My friends and I would go out in packs of 6, 7, or 8, and the only way a man was getting through was if one of us deliberately said, "I want that one."

You're much more likely to strike up a conversation with women in a smaller group, four or less, especially if you're if you're in a smaller group, too. Better yet if you and one buddy approach a pair. You will be able to tell if they find you cute if they "part the sea" when you come up to the bar. If two women are sitting there and they let you go between them to order a drink, they're checking you out. But if they lean toward each other so you can fit behind one of them to talk to the bartender, they're not interested, not necessarily because they don't find you attractive, but because they either just want to talk to each other and not deal with men, or they're both off the market and have boyfriends or husbands.

[findly185]

I tend to not date men who are intimidated by much. If you're easily intimidated, you probably wont approach me when I'm alone either or deal well with my personality in general.

But that's just me.

[TJenkins602]

Originally Posted by Trimac20

Especially when you're say out a club trying to talk to a girl, and she's with her friends, or in any situation, really. Maybe it's because in high school groups of girls would often start talking to me with a lot of giggling, but I can just be intimidated by groups of women or don't feel comfortable in their presence. I can't always help it but I just feel like they're judging me or something. Although sometimes I've been in situations where I was the only male in the group and I've got used to it, often times when I first meet them I have the paranoid suspicion that deep down they're making fun of me. It's probably pretty silly, and might reflect on my own insecurities and inexperience with dealing with the opposite sex in the group context. I mean I have female friends, but we tend to hang out one on one. And i should say, in most of these group situations the type of women (not really 'conventional types') might also be a factor. I'm just wondering if many guys here feel the same way, especially those without much experience dating or even relating much in that way.

In my area, women tend to be a little more wild in groups.

[mattywo85]

It honestly depends on the group, but if you like a girl in the group and her friends like you I guarantee she will like you too.

[mainebrokerman]

as charlie harper said, you need to split the herd,
wait for one to go get a drink, then approach

[weezerfan84]

Like someone else said, big groups can tend to be intimidating. Approaching at a club I find to be really easy. If she says no or not interested, then you can just walk off. You took a chance and she said no. I will say, be careful how much you hit on women in a club though. If you live in a small enough area, word could get around that you are out to pick up women. If you're out and not seeing the same people out repeatedly, than you are ok.

[ja1myn]

Not really. I love a large group of hot Latinas.