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Old 03-31-2013, 01:08 PM
 
Location: SF CA, USA
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It would be to your benefit to do it, considering that, in 2013, most other men won't.
I know that, but sometimes in the Bay Area it's like trying to pin the ocean to a wall. Set a time or be direct with anything and nothing comes of it. If you say something like, "Hey, would you like to go to the art museum sometime?", they're really enthused about it. But the minute you say, "Would you like to go the DeYoung next Wed at six?" You get all this waffling.
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Old 03-31-2013, 01:14 PM
 
Location: Albuquerque, NM
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I meant it in the generalized sense.. of course some of those people have lives outside of the computer.

What is your major malfunction, btw, You always always always have to get argumentative.

It's like you get off on it......
I have other ways to get off

People's absurdities jump out at me.

Like the OP.
She's fine using the internet to meet someone.
She's fine using a telephone to get to know someone.
She's not fine meeting someone until she talks to them on the phone

What's the real difference between these different technologies? She's free to believe as she wants, but does she even realize that a telephone call and text message are just two different communication technologies? "I won't meet you until we communicate via this medium!"

What if a stranger approaches her in public and wishes to speak with her? Does she plug her ears and hand him her phone number so they can talk on the phone first?
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Old 03-31-2013, 01:20 PM
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Location: Tall Building down by the river
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You pick up the phone, use about 3 mins to make a date to meet up somewhere.


Does that sound OK???



Well what made happen is there is another person who is ok with talking on the phone and they will get closer to that person. How often can you talk to someone face to face unless you live with them?
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Old 03-31-2013, 01:34 PM
 
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I know that, but sometimes in the Bay Area it's like trying to pin the ocean to a wall. Set a time or be direct with anything and nothing comes of it. If you say something like, "Hey, would you like to go to the art museum sometime?", they're really enthused about it. But the minute you say, "Would you like to go the DeYoung next Wed at six?" You get all this waffling.
Just assume that waffling = No.
It's better for you that way.
(both genders waffle, btw)
Don't be pulled into the matrix of waffling. It's a trap!
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Old 03-31-2013, 01:37 PM
 
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I have other ways to get off

People's absurdities jump out at me.

Like the OP.
She's fine using the internet to meet someone.
She's fine using a telephone to get to know someone.
She's not fine meeting someone until she talks to them on the phone

What's the real difference between these different technologies? She's free to believe as she wants, but does she even realize that a telephone call and text message are just two different communication technologies? "I won't meet you until we communicate via this medium!"

What if a stranger approaches her in public and wishes to speak with her? Does she plug her ears and hand him her phone number so they can talk on the phone first?
Speaking of absurdities.
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Old 03-31-2013, 01:45 PM
 
Location: Albuquerque, NM
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Speaking of absurdities.
Exactly.

It's absurd to require a phone call before meeting someone, since millions of people meet each other everyday without a phone call.

People even met each other before phones existed.

I don't understand why people have such different standards for meeting people that they've 'met' online as compared to meeting a stranger that they met offline.
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Old 03-31-2013, 01:46 PM
 
Location: SF CA, USA
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Just assume that waffling = No.
It's better for you that way.
(both genders waffle, btw)
Don't be pulled into the matrix of waffling. It's a trap!


The matrix of waffling...lol. Yeah, it can be annoying having to deal with the waffling, because you never know whether they're genuinely busy or just flaky. And yes, plenty of guys are like that here too.
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Old 03-31-2013, 01:46 PM
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Location: Tall Building down by the river
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Exactly.

It's absurd to require a phone call before meeting someone, since millions of people meet each other everyday without a phone call.

People even met each other before phones existed.

I don't understand why people have such different standards for meeting people that they've 'met' online as compared to meeting a stranger that they met offline.

What in the world is wrong with one phone call before a date?
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Old 03-31-2013, 01:56 PM
 
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What in the world is wrong with one phone call before a date?
That's what I want to know. People act like talking on the phone is the boogeyman. They say things like "I hate talking on the phone" and think that's a good excuse. So what? It's still something we have to do in life. What if I said "I hate meeting in person"? or "I hate having to act like you're sexy"? Is that okay? Get over it.
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Old 03-31-2013, 02:00 PM
 
Location: SF CA, USA
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That's what I want to know. People act like talking on the phone is the boogeyman. They say things like "I hate talking on the phone" and think that's a good excuse. So what? It's still something we have to do in life. What if I said "I hate meeting in person"? or "I hate having to act like you're sexy"? Is that okay? Get over it.
I hate wearing clothes to a date. It just slows all the important stuff down. :/
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