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Old 03-31-2013, 01:28 AM
 
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I was wondering if there was a way of winning her back. We had a stupid argument, in which it was about how I've been lately spending more time with friends, don't visit her too much and forgetting Valentine's Day.

I was trying to reason, but there was some truth to what she was saying and it became an argument of her saying how maybe it's better she leaves. Some time passed by and that's where I said ''Fine, you stupid *****'' and spat in her face; stupid me. She looked at me in shocked and walked away. This happened last week and she isn't taking my apologies nor wants to speak to me. If anyone asks for our ages it's 22 and 20. I'm truly sorry and really wanted to settle one with this girl in the near future.

Another thing is my family (even my parents) adored her and sometimes even treat her like a daughter. If I told them what happened, I'm not going to get another but verbal bashing esp from my father. He feels strongly about men that disrespect women and I feel terrible for dissapointing him.

To have an idea of how strongly he feels with that topic, when I was about 13, I recalled seeing him beat the living deadlights out of this guy that was punching his gf. He actually broke that man's nose and bruised him up, then he filed charges. I told him how maybe the beating the was too.
Old man: Not for me. I'll beat one when I see one. Don't ever let me catch you doing that, you understand?

Anyway what can I do to win her back? I'm already feeling bad and don't need any more tongue bashing and him making me feel like the worst loser. I just want her to know I'm really sorry I acted like that.
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Old 03-31-2013, 01:31 AM
 
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I've had other prior relationship and have never done this before nor even raised my voice. Already feeling like a loser, like one of those lowlifes. The very same thing my father and I always hated and still do.

I want her back. Is there a way?
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Old 03-31-2013, 02:03 AM
 
Location: The cupboard under the sink
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I want her back. Is there a way?
No. You blew it. BIG time.
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Old 03-31-2013, 02:08 AM
 
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There is nothing to be done..She is smart by leaving sorry if this is not the answer you were looking for…

You stated you wanted advice from people 20-22?

Good luck..There are young men your age that would never act like this nor fathom treating their g/f in such a manner .simply because this would never occur to them..

I am surprised you come from a household that has little tolerance for this type of behavior..
My advice to you? Leave her alone…cut your LOSSES…let her find a good man because at 20-22 that’s what you are…
I would enroll in some anger management course and learn ho to control your temper before it becomes worse and you end up in jail..
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Old 03-31-2013, 02:26 AM
 
Location: Texas
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I think you'd better learn your lesson and just forget about this girl.
She'd have ZERO sense to get back together with you.
Not because you are a loser or whatever, but there are some acts that you just don't forgive people for.
Physical abuse is one of them. If you're smart.
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Old 03-31-2013, 02:50 AM
 
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You spat on her? Wow. If you wanted revenge you could have been much clever about it. She might be able to charge you with assault.
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Old 03-31-2013, 02:51 AM
 
Location: Montreal, Quebec
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I was wondering if there was a way of winning her back. We had a stupid argument, in which it was about how I've been lately spending more time with friends, don't visit her too much and forgetting Valentine's Day.

I was trying to reason, but there was some truth to what she was saying and it became an argument of her saying how maybe it's better she leaves. Some time passed by and that's where I said ''Fine, you stupid *****'' and spat in her face; stupid me. She looked at me in shocked and walked away.
So, you don't spend enough time with her, forgot Valentine's Day, swore at her and spat in her face?
She'd be crazy to take you back. She deserves a better man than you.
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Old 03-31-2013, 03:10 AM
 
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Is this for real?
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Old 03-31-2013, 03:30 AM
 
Location: Virginia-Shenandoah Valley
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Is this for real?

I believe this is a troll posting but in case it's for real. (Unlikely)

OP--You are a moron and deserve to be dumped. If she comes back to you then she is a bigger moron.
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Old 03-31-2013, 03:40 AM
 
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Default Someone needs charm school.

You called her a foul name and you spit on her?

You're lucky she's not Tiffany Pollard.

Come back when you are civilized.
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