Girl I'm seeing was sent flowers presumably by another guy (dating, girls)
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I've been seeing this girl for just over a month. It isn't exclusive yet, but I'd like it to be.
So yesterday, she sends me a text saying "Hey! Did you send me flowers?". My reply was "No, but now I wish I had :-(, ha ha", and then just to be funny "I mean yes, I'll take the credit"
Since she asked me if it was me, she of course doesn't know who they're from. And like I said, we aren't exclusive, so I am not jealous - I have no right to be. I'm just wondering what an appropriate response would be at this point since I clearly have competition.. and I want to crush it!
I do already have a date set up with her this coming Thursday. I was thinking about sending her one of those "edible arrangements" at work, maybe on Monday. But it might be better on Friday, after the date. I just want to make sure she knows I'm interested (which I believe I have been pretty clear about) and give her a reason to get rid of this other guy (as far as I really know they might not be from a guy...)
Don't send her anything...that would look desperate and forced and she'll know the only reason you are sending it is because she got flowers from someone else.
If you want to be exclusive why not just have a conversation with her?
I've been seeing this girl for just over a month. It isn't exclusive yet, but I'd like it to be.
So yesterday, she sends me a text saying "Hey! Did you send me flowers?". My reply was "No, but now I wish I had :-(, ha ha", and then just to be funny "I mean yes, I'll take the credit"
Since she asked me if it was me, she of course doesn't know who they're from. And like I said, we aren't exclusive, so I am not jealous - I have no right to be. I'm just wondering what an appropriate response would be at this point since I clearly have competition.. and I want to crush it!
I do already have a date set up with her this coming Thursday. I was thinking about sending her one of those "edible arrangements" at work, maybe on Monday. But it might be better on Friday, after the date. I just want to make sure she knows I'm interested (which I believe I have been pretty clear about) and give her a reason to get rid of this other guy (as far as I really know they might not be from a guy...)
Anyone have any thoughts or suggestions?
Bad idea, IMO.
I've been working in office life for most of the past 25 years and I have never seen that so early in dating. Office talk and rumors can lead to embarrassment for her.
If this was your 10th Anniversary or something like during an engagement period then I'd say go for it. That is acceptable for that type of surprise.
My suggestion is to go out on the date and don't worry about who else she may be seeing.
She will decide if she wants to be exclusive with someone.
Thanks for the replies. It does give me some things to think about. I think it is too soon to ask her to be exclusive because she also has her daughter to consider. I'll just see her this coming week and not do anything differently than if she hadn't sent the message about the flowers.
That HAS to be a game she's playing with you. I mean, how can you NOT know who sent them?
Sounds like some sort of PUA for girls stuff.
I'd be really irritated with her if I were in your shoes.
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Originally Posted by Raena77
How do you know she didn't send them to herself?
She may be making you step up your game.
Just keep dating her.Treat her right and she may pick you.
Funny you both added those ideas at the same time. And the thought did cross my mind. In which case this might not be her first attempt to do so. She had a work trip to california a couple weeks ago, and made sure to tell me about the "buddy" she was going to be hanging out with and "walking the beach and pier". Once again, I didn't react to this negatively because we aren't exclusive and she has the right to see whoever she wants.
Or she generally has a secret amire. Or her mom sent them. Lol
People don't secretly send flowers unless they're going to reveal it later, so if that's true she knows by now or will know soon.
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