Four dates too soon to have sex??? (man, couples, partner)
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If this is what you think, it also probably what you are conveying to men. You have to care about yourself before anyone else will.
I care about myself. When I said not care..not care about them.
Honestly, the guys who had hurt me ended up coming back. Im not a type of girl who would ever chase a guy. I think of myself as a great catch that's why I'm not rushing into a relationship.
Put myself into the position of the guy for a moment. You date a girl - you really enjoy her company and you see the potential of love forming. Your intentions as a man are honorable...in the meantime in the back of the girls mind she is thinking..."I am going to have sex with this guy because he looks hot...and then I think I just might have sex with Joe next week cos' I really want his body? - Well....what can I say- who needs a woman like that and who really needs a man like that for that matter....This woman has the potential of being a great and accomplished liar.
I care about myself. When I said not care..not care about them.
Honestly, the guys who had hurt me ended up coming back. Im not a type of girl who would ever chase a guy. I think of myself as a great catch that's why I'm not rushing into a relationship.
When I hear that a woman tries to "be emotionally detached and to not care", I see a woman who doesn't think enough of herself to think that a man will want to stay with her. She doesn't feel worthy, so she defends herself by saying she doesn't care about him and she doesn't want to be tied down anyway. Just my opinion.
Back in the free love era I remember having sex within the first hour of meeting- There was no "dating" . The difference was back then- was if you had sex and enjoyed each other you would become exclusive to each other. People had sex quickly and they moved in together quickly. The mating process was in high speed..but it was still mating. The way things have changed now is that there is this false morality.
People suggest- that there is a waiting period before sex so as not to look trashy...four dates? Oh that's respectable...time for sex now? Be honest - have sex immediately and stop pretending that you are a decent human being.
If you're going out with him, whats the difference between 4 days and a month.. ?
I don't understand these "too soon" things about dating. If I'm into a girl and she sleeps with me on the first date, I'm still going to be into her.
Then clearly you're in the minority of men. Many men have a one street mind that only understands attraction. It's the lizard brain in full action, eat, sleep,and pleasure (sex). Many men will do what it takes to woo a girl as quickly as possible just to get in her pants, they may stick around as long as the sex is good, but once strings begin to become attached they will head out in search of a new conquest.
I am a man and I know many men with this mindset whose main goal is to add another girl to their list, they just want a quick bang, and they'll fake being interested in a girl to get it, even if the girl is beautiful, brilliant, and independent.
Back in the free love era I remember having sex within the first hour of meeting- There was no "dating" . The difference was back then- was if you had sex and enjoyed each other you would become exclusive to each other. People had sex quickly and they moved in together quickly. The mating process was in high speed..but it was still mating. The way things have changed now is that there is this false morality.
People suggest- that there is a waiting period before sex so as not to look trashy...four dates? Oh that's respectable...time for sex now? Be honest - have sex immediately and stop pretending that you are a decent human being.
Some of the worst advice you can take ^
That's a recipe to get hurt, as many men are into women just to get a good lay and aren't actually looking for a relationship.
Then clearly you're in the minority of men. Many men have a one street mind that only understands attraction. It's the lizard brain in full action, eat, sleep,and pleasure (sex). Many men will do what it takes to woo a girl as quickly as possible just to get in her pants, they may stick around as long as the sex is good, but once strings begin to become attached they will head out in search of a new conquest.
I am a man and I know many men with this mindset whose main goal is to add another girl to their list, they just want a quick bang, and they'll fake being interested in a girl to get it, even if the girl is beautiful, brilliant, and independent.
I'm not too sure that's the norm. What you described sounds like a group of dirtballs making themselves feel better by saying that's how guys think.
I have 0 problem with a one night stand, I don't choose a girl because of sex. I will only date a girl with shared interests with me.. but I'll sleep with plenty of girls I find attractive. However, lying and manipulating them is ridiculous and not normal.
That's a recipe to get hurt, as many men are into women just to get a good lay and aren't actually looking for a relationship.
I think your advice is further off than oleg beach's ..
It's great to look out for the trash out there, but most guys aren't trash.
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