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Sadly OP, I think you got played out for sex. He either got it and was satisfied, or he didn't like it as much as he thought he would. Either way, you are right to feel the way that you do. You expect a bit more emotion from a guy that just slept with you, yet he just closes the door behind you. As a male, I don't think you're out of line for feeling the way you do. You were expecting a particular outcome and you put yourself on the line to be with him.
No one can say if you offered up sex too early or too late. The only thing that can be said is you feel that you have been used. Even if he didn't use you, he's not reenforcing to you that you weren't just a lay to him. I'd say dump the guy, unless he starts putting forth effort. If he does put forth effort, be weary if he's trying to get you back in the bedroom. You'll know pretty quick if he's serious or not, because he will give up pretty quickly if he can't get you back in the bedroom.
Sadly OP, I think you got played out for sex. He either got it and was satisfied, or he didn't like it as much as he thought he would. Either way, you are right to feel the way that you do. You expect a bit more emotion from a guy that just slept with you, yet he just closes the door behind you. As a male, I don't think you're out of line for feeling the way you do. You were expecting a particular outcome and you put yourself on the line to be with him.
No one can say if you offered up sex too early or too late. The only thing that can be said is you feel that you have been used. Even if he didn't use you, he's not reenforcing to you that you weren't just a lay to him. I'd say dump the guy, unless he starts putting forth effort. If he does put forth effort, be weary if he's trying to get you back in the bedroom. You'll know pretty quick if he's serious or not, because he will give up pretty quickly if he can't get you back in the bedroom.
Listen to weezer OP He knows what he is talking about.
Well, maybe it was all in your head too? Maybe give it a little extra time and see what he does.
Its weird to think a guy would just be really in to you and then stop talking to you. See where it goes, if he keeps it up then move on. Maybe he's just stressed out this week or busy?
Sadly OP, I think you got played out for sex. He either got it and was satisfied, or he didn't like it as much as he thought he would. Either way, you are right to feel the way that you do. You expect a bit more emotion from a guy that just slept with you, yet he just closes the door behind you. As a male, I don't think you're out of line for feeling the way you do. You were expecting a particular outcome and you put yourself on the line to be with him.
No one can say if you offered up sex too early or too late. The only thing that can be said is you feel that you have been used. Even if he didn't use you, he's not reenforcing to you that you weren't just a lay to him. I'd say dump the guy, unless he starts putting forth effort. If he does put forth effort, be weary if he's trying to get you back in the bedroom. You'll know pretty quick if he's serious or not, because he will give up pretty quickly if he can't get you back in the bedroom.
Thank you for this. It stings a little to hear someone so closely articulate my thoughts but I'm pretty sure you're exactly right. He went from making me feel like he actually liked me to...nothing. I don't regret sleeping with him because I was ready and I liked him and enjoyed it. I really just wish things would have worked out differently.
I wouldn't contact him anymore. What you described has been my experience with online dating. Meet someone and hit it off, talk everyday, have a few fantastic dates, and then I sit back confused as the guy stops contacting me or appears generally disinterested. I think there are a lot of guys out there who use online dating just for hooking up. Then they get what they want and they are onto the next. I think there are guys who use online dating thinking they want a relationship, but when they actually meet someone who is relationship potential they flip out. The other thing is you never know how many other women this guy could be talking to. He may have decided he preferred someone else over you.
Give him space. If he contacts you be casual. Don't ask him out. And definitely never ask the guy what's wrong or why things have changed. I think they key to success with online dating is not to have any expectations. Even if you meet someone you really like, keep your perspective. Until a guy says he wants to be exlusive don't assume anything and if your feelings are going to be hurt if you get intimate with a guy and then he never calls you again, then you should wait and you should define the relationsip prior to. I've been reading "Why Men Love B*tches" and people can knock it all they want, but it is a lot of advice that makes a LOT of sense. Check it out.
It's funny how everybody assumes that somebody is being used for sex, like everyone is 18 years old.
As an "Adult" it basically comes down to two things: Attraction and compatibility. I, like most people can be completely attracted to someone and then end up finding out we have an incompatibility issue. Sometimes it's early in the relationship which may be the OPs case and sometimes its later. At some point in many relationships when the issues become larger than what binds two people together its time to go your separate ways.
Perhaps the guy isnt really looking for relationship but would rather date around? Many smart guys go this route in todays dating world. Id say just forget about him and let him come to you. If he wants to be with you, he will make it obvious. If he doesnt, move on.
You have already shown enough interest in him to let him know that you like him. There is NO CONFUSION about it. Let him make the next move. If he doesn't contact you, it's time to move on. In the mean time, keep your options open to other opportunities, don't sit there and wait for him. The way I see it is, if a man likes or loves you, he will be motivated to find a way to be with you. If he doesn't even pick up the phone to call....Yeah, picking up the phone is pretty easy and effortless and if you aren't even worth that effort or energy, what does that say?
I went through hell and back to court this girl who I eventually married. It wasn't easy but for her, I would sacrifice the world for her. If God came to me and told me, I can only save one: Everyone on earth or just my wife. I guess everyone would be sh.it out of luck.
Exactly.
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