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Wait right here, I need to go ask my husband......
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I thought about reading the whole thread but I don't think I need to anymore. I get it. First pick your battles, be consistent, use calm communication (sit down with her and take turns telling each side of the arguement), get a mediator, and get couples therapy. You don't have to be married for it. It's for other types of relationships too I'm sure. If all else fails break up. That's my advice. Take it or leave it.
P.S. the Pavlovian suspicions sounds to me like you might be a bit paranoid about her or something.
I'm basically just looking for the most 'alpha' response to that kind of short-tempered, gets-mad-about-nothing, immature behavior. Is that too much to ask? The best thing I can think of so far is just saying something like, "uhp, there's that temper again, I'll talk to you later."
The problem is that I'm leaving her mind in a messed up state. She has some dumb*ss assumption going on up there making her mad that needs to be corrected because it's wrong. Usually the assumption is that if I'm disagreeing with her, she's stupid, or something similarly negative. What I usually try to do is correct that assumption but I never succeed at it.
She gets mad about what seems to me to be the silliest, most insignificant things. More specifically, she seems to be offended that I disagree with her. It's very strange to me. I don't know how to handle it in a way that makes her lighten up. From previous, similarly ridiculous arguments I've learned that she seems to be thinking, "If he disagrees with my argument, it means he thinks I'm wrong and stupid!" It's crazy but it fits with her habit of jumping to extreme negative conclusions/assumptions whenever the opportunity arises.
One ridiculous example is a disagreement about cutting hair lol.. I have short hair and have learned to do it myself. When she learned about that fact she implied that it was impossible to someone to do as good of a job themselves as stylist would do bc she has friends that don't do a good job. The thing is, sometimes I do have a stylist do it and sometimes I do it. Several tests have confirmed that she can't even tell the difference.. That's not the point though. The odd part is, instead of the subject being a funny, lighthearted thing, she takes offense to it. My argument that it is possible for someone to cut their own hair as well as a professional stylist IF they have enough practice at it offends her somehow. She seems to be thinking, "If he disagrees with my argument, it means he thinks I'm wrong and stupid!" The whole thing is dumb I know but I can't just come out and say that bc it would offend her even more lol.. I don't know how to react..
Why would you want to "handle" someone like that? Why would you want to be with someone like that?
Have you ever heard the saying, "When someone shows you who they are, believe them" ?? I follow that, and it has never led me down the wrong path.
I'm basically just looking for the most 'alpha' response to that kind of short-tempered, gets-mad-about-nothing, immature behavior. Is that too much to ask? The best thing I can think of so far is just saying something like, "uhp, there's that temper again, I'll talk to you later."
The problem is that I'm leaving her mind in a messed up state. She has some dumb*ss assumption going on up there making her mad that needs to be corrected because it's wrong. Usually the assumption is that if I'm disagreeing with her, she's stupid, or something similarly negative. What I usually try to do is correct that assumption but I never succeed at it.
]I'm basically just looking for the most 'alpha' response[/b] to that kind of short-tempered, gets-mad-about-nothing, immature behavior. Is that too much to ask? The best thing I can think of so far is just saying something like, "uhp, there's that temper again, I'll talk to you later."
The problem is that I'm leaving her mind in a messed up state.
She has some dumb*ss assumption going on up there making her mad that needs to be corrected because it's wrong.
Usually the assumption is that if I'm disagreeing with her, she's stupid, or something similarly negative. What I usually try to do is correct that assumption but I never succeed at it.
What????
Seriously dude, the more you post the scarier things look.
In the first place, you have no clue what a real "alpha male" even is.
In the second place, this is clearly not a healthy relationship.
Call it a day already!
Move on and spend some time growing up and into the man you want to be before trying to have a girlfriend.
Try to understand, before you can have a successful relationship with a woman you have to have a successful relationship with yourself.
I'm basically just looking for the most 'alpha' response to that kind of short-tempered, gets-mad-about-nothing, immature behavior. Is that too much to ask? The best thing I can think of so far is just saying something like, "uhp, there's that temper again, I'll talk to you later."
The problem is that I'm leaving her mind in a messed up state. She has some dumb*ss assumption going on up there making her mad that needs to be corrected because it's wrong. Usually the assumption is that if I'm disagreeing with her, she's stupid, or something similarly negative. What I usually try to do is correct that assumption but I never succeed at it.
You can't fix stupid. Yours or hers.
And the bolded item - isn't that the popular definition of insanity?
You don't sound like you like her...why do you stay?
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How many posts can you make about one person? End it for the love of all that is good. Please. 
