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There's an difference between an expectation and a demand.
"If we don't see each other 2 times a week, it's over" = a demand
"I'd like to see each other regularly so we can grow our relationship" = an expectation
That would be sad indeed if after you guys did the deed, he just up and wanders off like he got what he wanted and now is done with you. Guys can be extremely lame that way. Makes the rest of us look bad too. You could always sit down and ask him face to face what's on his mind as far as you and him are concerned. Hope the best for you...
There's an difference between an expectation and a demand.
"If we don't see each other 2 times a week, it's over" = a demand
"I'd like to see each other regularly so we can grow our relationship" = an expectation
And you don't think he would get scared if I said what I expect?
Sounds like you have a lot more invested in this guy now that you've had sex with him. Maybe he was just making conversation when he asked what your plans are. If I were you I'd sit back and try to relax. Maybe he will ask you to do something and maybe he won't. Do NOT sit at home obsessively checking your email to see if he asks you to do something. Do NOT avoid making other plans because you're hoping he will pop up and ask you to do something. Do NOT expect that because you guys had sex he now wants to be in an exclusive serious relationship with you. These are all things I've done that were wrong wrong wrong and only led to my being extremely disappointed. If he hasn't ask you to do something by the end of today I would make other weekend plans. If he wants to see you he should schedule in advance, not assume you'll make yourself available at the last moment.
That would be sad indeed if after you guys did the deed, he just up and wanders off like he got what he wanted and now is done with you. Guys can be extremely lame that way. Makes the rest of us look bad too. You could always sit down and ask him face to face what's on his mind as far as you and him are concerned. Hope the best for you...
I've had this happen to me and I was really upset with the guy because I felt like he got what he wanted and then peaced out, but honestly it was my fault too. It's not particularly nice to sleep with someone and then never call them again, but if women don't want this to happen to them they shouldn't sleep with a guy so fast and they should be up front about what they expect before the deed happens.
Sounds like you have a lot more invested in this guy now that you've had sex with him. Maybe he was just making conversation when he asked what your plans are. If I were you I'd sit back and try to relax. Maybe he will ask you to do something and maybe he won't. Do NOT sit at home obsessively checking your email to see if he asks you to do something. Do NOT avoid making other plans because you're hoping he will pop up and ask you to do something. Do NOT expect that because you guys had sex he now wants to be in an exclusive serious relationship with you. These are all things I've done that were wrong wrong wrong and only led to my being extremely disappointed. If he hasn't ask you to do something by the end of today I would make other weekend plans. If he wants to see you he should schedule in advance, not assume you'll make yourself available at the last moment.
That would be sad indeed if after you guys did the deed, he just up and wanders off like he got what he wanted and now is done with you. Guys can be extremely lame that way. Makes the rest of us look bad too. You could always sit down and ask him face to face what's on his mind as far as you and him are concerned. Hope the best for you...
He's still around and initiates contact with me. Honestly, nothing has changed. Before we met and even when were hanging out, he's been active with going out of town with friends. Most weekends that Ive know him, he had made plans with friends. I think now, I expect to see him regularly.
Sounds like you have a lot more invested in this guy now that you've had sex with him. Maybe he was just making conversation when he asked what your plans are. If I were you I'd sit back and try to relax. Maybe he will ask you to do something and maybe he won't. Do NOT sit at home obsessively checking your email to see if he asks you to do something. Do NOT avoid making other plans because you're hoping he will pop up and ask you to do something. Do NOT expect that because you guys had sex he now wants to be in an exclusive serious relationship with you. These are all things I've done that were wrong wrong wrong and only led to my being extremely disappointed. If he hasn't ask you to do something by the end of today I would make other weekend plans. If he wants to see you he should schedule in advance, not assume you'll make yourself available at the last moment.
The thing about this guy is every week, he asks for my schedule. Usually, early part of the week and we always schedule our date in advance. There was a week or maybe couple of weeks, now that i thought about it, that I didn't see him because he was going out of town but he still asked about my schedule for those weeks.
He still initiates contact. The message frequency has not changed. Maybe my expectations are different now that's why it occurred to me for a moment that he's maybe blowing me off.
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